I mean, I understand what you're saying and it is true here on lemmy, but it is absolutely not the case that you don't have to self-censor on the internet. I mean, you can choose to not to, but some systems will just never show your contribution to the conversation to anyone (ex. tiktok, Facebook, YouTube, etc). So people practice self-censorship to engage with those platforms and then it becomes a part of their online vocabulary.
So, you don't need to self-censor here on lemmy, but you also shouldn't give anyone flak for doing so.
No I think their point stands. There are plenty of words to choose from, you simply don't need to say shit. Like it is quite literally that simple, use the word or don't.
Similar story here. Asperger's runs on both of my parents' sides of the family. In addition Dad has ADHD and mom has BPD. I ended up with the Autism+ADHD combo with sprinkling of CPTSD on top. I don't even know where the neurological problems end and the psychological problems begin.