the issue is that people believe the default party is not a coincidence but some higher order plan, whether religious or spiritual or karmic or whatever
My mom thinks that you should do anything for family.
Meanwhile, I can cut ties with people like it's nothing. Once you have to end toxic relationships a few times, it gets really easy. Now I just don't hang around toxic people lol.
It really sucks because growing up you have no concept of what is toxicity or abuse, you learn from meeting others and going "wow these new people I met never shit on me for no reason"