I hate hyphenated last names. It’s more of an aesthetic thing though and not really something I actually care about. If I were a kid and had to put a long ass last name on every paper I’d be rather annoyed (my last name is long to begin with)
I'm inclined to agree. Main issue for me is that it's not a sustainable practice and you're possibly making this very problem more difficult for the next generation.
Particularly if you plan to have kids, I think it's nice to have one name. It just doesn't have to be a man's specifically. Name mashups are fun, or simply reversing gender stereotypes. I once went to a wedding where the couple flipped a coin to decide whose name they'd take forward and it was possibly the most exciting part of the day.
My girlfriend and I are talking about this, I want her to keep her last name, I want to keep mine, but I also want to share a last name with my future children.
I'm the last male with that last name, which is very unique - basically everybody with that last name is related and we can track it at least 400 years in the past and I want my children to be part of that history. But I also want my girlfriend to have the same, like having our children be connected to her family history as well. So we will combine our names to not sever those connections.
Only part of contention is which name comes first, I like it alphabetically which would put my name first, her first and last name are alphabetically following letters (like A-B eg. Anne Barn or Chloe Detmer) which is also nice, so I am torn about that question :D