Stop treating rural republicans, chuds, incels, and conservatives, as human beings. The problem is that too many democrats want to go back to the "good old days" of bipartisanship. Those days are long gone.
We have to treat any republican, no matter how "reasonable" as an enemy of democracy and the United States. It doesn't matter if they're family, friends, co-workers, etc. This is who they really are.
They ARE human beings, who need to both be deprogrammed and held accountable, proportionally to their actions. But they didn't just spontaneously erupt in hate and bigotry, people aren't born that way, they are socialised to be that away.
There is a collection of deeply effective systems at play here that control every aspect of our lives and those, and the people who run and directly profit from them, are to blame, not the individuals they manipulate, however hateful and harmful and misguided they become.
You're never going to solve a problem by attacking its by-products, but only by destroying it from the roots.
too many democrats want to go back to the “good old days” of bipartisanship
Democrats, despite preaching bipartisanship, do not want it. In fact, they benefit greatly from the trumpification of the republican party as they can gather their votes without making any significant concessions to the voter by denouncing how outrageous the republican party is.