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UPDATE: Is it immoral if I don't tell my fiance about this account?

Hi pals. My original post on this subject is about ~4 months old at this point, so here is a (very positive) update!

A TL;DR on the last post: my fiance did not know I was a crossdresser or that I had this account where I posted photos of myself. General advice was "you gotta tell her" which was fair.

Here's the approximate order of how it happened:

  • Talked with her about chastity, which she found hot
  • Talked more about me being submissive/into femdom, explored it a good amount (very positive)
  • I surprised her by wearing my bodysuit from my profile pic, which was well-received.
  • I showed her my old Reddit account from before we started dating. She liked it! Later, she would comb through it to find out more about what I like.
  • A few days after, I showed her this account.

Ultimately, the response was good! I was honest and forthright about why I did it in the first place, why I kept it to myself, etc. She understood, but of ourse wished that I'd felt comfortable enough to come to her earlier. Which is reasonable! I'll be posting more photos in the future, just with her approval beforehand.

I do regret not bringing it up sooner, but I also know that the decisions I made in the first place were reasonable at the time. We've kept exploring femdom and crossdressing a bit, it's been excellent. Absolutely wild to have things that I've fantasized about for so long actually happen.

Anyways, thanks everyone for reading and giving advice. This LemmyNSFW community is so much cooler than Reddit, never stop being chill!

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