I've been at a bit of a crossroads for this as well recently. I don't really know that I have a go-to anymore. I agree that commercial videos are more of a "just to get off quickly" kind of situation. It always feels more like it takes longer to find a decent video than to actually cum.
If I'm using toys on myself(bi M) I prefer to watch hypnos, but that's going to be a niche fetish thing that doesn't work for most. If I'm not using toys, nothing compares to chat/rp with an actual partner.
I like erotica and it's a much more satisfying experience than videos, but it's so difficult to find something that I like that doesn't have bad writing or something weird that's a turn off. I'm also the type of person who can't read the same thing twice so even if I find something it's a one-time experience.
I suggest Tumblr, their nsfw scene is coming back and they have plenty of people who make kink posts and have stories and descriptions, really gets me going a lot of the time
Back when I was a hornier teenager I was on Tumblr a bunch when it was actually in it's heyday. I really don't know that I could go back to that life at this point though.