I (27M) fell in love with a girl (20F), she rejected me and I wanted space, now she want's me to continue our friendship
So basically I said I just wanted space for some time. She took this as that she's never allowed to talk to me again.
Yesterday her lover(26M), which is also a friend of mine, I've known for a long time, came to talk to me and told me this. He also doesn't want to do anything with me until I start being friends with her again, because he thinks he's standing between us.
I tried doing activities with both of them together, but somehow it always makes me miserable to see her happy with someone else.
Next week is a festival where we planned to go together and I lined everything up to see how things are going or in which direction we can move from here. For info: Another girl is also going with us I think the dynamic would change a bit. There's also a lot of other people I know at the festival.
I feel like I should just talk to 20F, but I don't think I will tell her anything she want's to hear. So I don't know if this can improve the situation in any way.
I feel they are both being very selfish about this, sorry this is happening to you :( Sounds like they want you to pretend you’re fine so they can stop thinking about it or feeling guilty but space seems like the best idea here…
I'm feeling the same. I don't blame them though. It's not an easy situation and people cope differently. Right now I'm the only person that can do anything about it and I decided to postpone this step into the future.