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Anon is worried about men

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A lot of people in this thread are talking about how much women suck because of X, Y, Z. But like... have you tried not dating shitty women? Or at least not getting so hung up on a woman who treats you poorly? Yeah, it sucks to be treated badly, but consider that you just dodged a bullet. You don’t need women like that in your life. Find a woman you actually connect with, someone you share interests with, not just someone you want to sleep with.
Two hard truths a lot of single men need to reckon with:
1: Most people are kind of shitty, and therefore, most women are kind of shitty. I could go on about how consumer culture and social media encourage toxic traits, but the fact of the matter is you should focus on not being a shitty person yourself, and you shouldn’t settle for shitty people either.
2: With number one in mind, you need to broaden your horizons regarding what kind of woman you’re attracted to. Porn and social media have rotted our brains when it comes to attraction. Maybe I’m just pervy, but honestly, I can find something attractive in just about everyone. 90% of people are at least a 7/10 if they put in some effort, and a 7/10 who you truly vibe with is better than a 10/10 who treats you like shit. And trust me, when you form a true romantic connection with someone, they become even more attractive in your eyes.
There are good, beautiful women out there, I know because I’m marrying one. We met online, and she’s one of the kindest and smartest people I’ve ever met, and I find her more beautiful than anyone else in the world. And I’m a fat, impoverished, autist. If I can do it, so can you.
- Most people are kind of shitty, and therefore, most women are kind of shitty.
  I don't know if this is exactly inspiring anyone haha.
  
  It should be that most people are broken in some way and finding a person who is broken in a way that helps fill in your problems while you fill in there’s is a difficult but not impossible process.
  
  That's exactly it. Help each other heal and grow.
  Just need to find the puzzle piece that fits, and then two half broken pieces can grow into a strong unit.
  Just needs empathy, respect and good communication. It's work, but it's possible if both sides are genuinely interested in making it work. Just do not be a self-centered asshole and don't have such a person as a partner.
  It seems like so many relationships these days are shallow decoration. If you can't talk to your partner about everything and you are not at least best friends, why the fuck even bother ? If it's not the person you can trust your life with, it's not your partner, but a fuck buddy. Some people seem to have some misunderstanding here what a serious relationship is, or do not even want such a thing.
  
  But men are equally shitty, so you just have to find someone on the same shit spectrum as you!
  
  Lol yeah I read that whole thing and had to a double take because it reminded of Elon asking why everyone hates him.
  
  We can be shitty together! :p
  I mean, you gotta start by seeing the positives.

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