Are there things you like irl which turn you off in porn?
Like for me (male) for example, I like being dominant irl. Not as much as being submissive, but still. In porn though, it turns me off massively when men are dominant.
I like making out irl (a lot) and porn gets it all wrong. It's way too hard and fast and exaggerated. I guess it makes sense since it's for the cameras. It also explains why men are worse at making out than women (on average).