You should date someone with at least some reasonable overlap of ideals. If you wish to have a family unit, like conservatives certainly do, you need to have common ground and mutual respect or you will end up with yet another single mother raising a potentially negative statistic and father losing his child or bailing.
So what you're saying is: relationships require respect? Yeah, that's one reason a lot of leftism is built upon respect for one another. Conservatism, the best I can understand stand it relies on feeding an outdated lie that there are multiple classes of people, some being better and more deserving than others.
But yeah, you don't respect your partner you lose your partner, but that does not a conservative or conservative argument make.
Oh no, you gotta figure out what sort of situation works for you. It is beneficial to find someone that has some overlapping ideals as yourself, heck most of your friends and you probably already have some overlap you may not have thought about.
Do you not have an overlapping fundamental agreement with your partner about how the world works and what's moral values are most important?
Like you're not gonna agree on everything I know, but "are some people inherently better than others, should a justice system focus on punishment or rehabilitation, is education valuable for society, was the earth created by evolution or God, do you want kids(+ a couple questions if "yes")" are, in my mind, things you need to agree on with the person you intend to share your life with.