Could we improve men’s mental health?
Could we improve men’s mental health?
Would more men be open to going to therapy if they had resources tailored specifically for them, and if the office had Emotional Support Animals for appointment use?
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The world we live in, at least in regards to this, is a woman's world and it's not fit for men. It's forcing men to do what's best for women, then if they have any issues things that worked on women are used on men. If men act like women at the end then great, if they still act like men then they are broken.
Now I probably lost a load of people already but bare with me.
Women/ girls have issues then men/boys have to do something about it. Boys constantly get told how to behave how awful their sex is how they need to do this and that and they are wrong, they are responsibly etc. But it doesn't matter if they are perfectly good citizen and boy it's still their fault for all the wrong in the world. Nothing ever goes back the other way. Some rich guy has a load of money, that means all guys are responsibly for having a load of money and all guys need to make less money. It's stupid.
But more to the point how do you make guys happy? Guys do not want one on one sessions when they can talk about all their issues and cry then feel better. That's a woman's solution to a problem. Men are built different and need solutions.
The best thing I found is being part of a men only group where we physically hurt each other and used our aggression to have fun with each other. (Rugby). Especially when I was younger men need that testosterone release. Then we all went to the pub got fucked up, was dicks to each other. But we had each others backs. This is what women do not get. They see us fighting each other, calling each other cunts and what not. But if you did something bad the group will let someone call you a cunt and get put in your place, if you are doing something bad the group will step in. If you did nothing wrong then it keeps going on. But we still talk and look out for each other. Here is the point. Who do you think I would rather talk to? Some person in a open collar shirt and fancy office trying to look approachable? Or some guy in a shirt and tie covered in beer, in a dark room, with a black eye and arms the size of my head, that earlier in the day called me a fucking pussy and told me to man the fuck up and get in the game because I just got pushed off a tackle. I bet 9/10 women would get that wrong. Also I'm the person that would respond well to that sort of encouragement, I don't need to feel sorry for myself that doesn't help. I need motivation. Women don't get that either.
Men need men only spaces where they can de-stress and shoot the shit. This is why pubs have been so popular with men. But we need a revival of social clubs. Just a place where you can go to hang out and not need to drink, somehow children need to be involved too by maybe not every day.
Yikes, if this is really your worldview, it seems pretty small and is dismissive of a lot of realities that both men and women live in. To be clear, I've tried to parse what you're saying, and generally it seems you're calling out symptoms of an issue where the conclusion is men are "built different". It would be nice if life were so black and white.
So worldview but I think I may be able to parse out his more generously.
Some people need a community with sports and bars and swearing and insults in order to open up. I'm a man and I don't feel that way myself, but it's good to remember not all people are the same.