AFAICT, mastodon's decisions, which are arguably problematic (on which see: https://lemmy.ml/post/14973403) are literally trickling down to other platforms and infecting how they federate with each other as they dance around mastodon's quirks in different ways.
It seems like masto is ruining "the standard" with its gravity.
For me mastodon was worst experience from side of admin of instance and from user experience too.
Thinking it's a little bit overcomplicated and limited. On the other hand hosting services like Lemmy and PeerTube are just breez :)