"Dismissing unacceptable behavior of others as a 'neurodivergent' trait, which is problematic because it creates a stereotype that neurodivergent people are hard to interact with and need special treatment.
Neurodivergent people literally are challenged in interaction with other people and need special treatment. Creating the narrative that they don't is not helping. What am I missing here?
It actually kinda is. At least where I live, many neurodivergencies, like ADHD or autism, are recognized as disabilities that hinder you from integrating with your environment. Being unable to evaluate your own thoughts in a social context, or being unable to interpret social cues, can result in actions that make you appear like an asshole to people around you. It's not the same for everyone