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  • "my kids became adults, realized im a shit human, and now i can't see my grandbabies! and that angers the narcissist in me because I only had children for selfish reasons."

    • my kids became adults, realized im a shit human, and now i can't see my grandbabies!

      I mean, I wish this was more the case. But as often as not, its simply because the Millennial generation has needed to move across the country to find good work. I know more than a few chud grandparents who get plenty of grandkid time purely on the basis of free childcare being worth its weight in gold. I know more than a few based woke grandparents who never see their grandkids simply because they live on the east coast and the grandkids live out west. Increasingly, you'll see grandparents move halfway across the country to be closer to family. Or you'll see kids moving back in and forming extended households, entirely because of the cost of real estate.

      Even the worst politics can be forgivable, even the best negligible, when material conditions are a concern.

      • i was just working off the meme and the grandparent who made that probably is a shit person if they have to "make up" with their kids. Obviously there are other reasons a grandparent can't see their kid for valid or geographical reasons. My own parents are stupid as fuck conservative catholics but they aren't complete twats about it so they see their grandkids and kids with no problems. Their debates they would have with me(the only commie) would anger me in the past, but now it just makes me laugh.

  • Man I fucking feel for you guys in this thread. My parents are just well-meaning libs who immediately cave when I apply pressure. Like when JK Rowling was first getting onto her bullshit and I whipped out an "actually my friend is trans and you knew her pre-transition" it basically blew the transphobia out of them like a shotgun blast. I'd rent my parents out to you guys if I could so you could have a couple old academic libs to very lightly dunk on with the understanding that they are still trying to figure out a confusing world even in old age.

    Edit: I should add that I empathize because growing up in the South, most of my friends had the parents you describe and I was pretty familiar with how unstable it made them feel at home.

  • Yeah I'm literally in the process of trying to figure out how to stay in contact with my father but cut off all communications with my mother. She's gone off the deep end. Any conversation with her centers around her racist hatred of Mexicans. She always wants to tell me highly exaggerated and likely fabricated stories of encounters with Mexicans she's had. The woman carries a switchblade and always grasps for it in her purse if she sees someone with too dark of a complexion. I can't be in public with her because if she hears a single word of Spanish around her, her eyes get wide and she'll start muttering to herself about how "Mexicans should all go back."

    We live in Texas, so often these people aren't even from Mexico. It's just Latinos, mostly people born in Texas in the first place.

    She's super into Trump as well, obviously, but she's one of the odd ones who is also pro-vaccine, so at least she has that. She worships the British royal family too...and is also somehow an advocate for Irish decolonization (she claims we have Irish ancestry even though as far as I can tell our family came from Poland)

  • My uncle keeps sending group texts of straight-up Qanon or transphobic hatred shit and I just don't respond, nobody does

    My dad's Facebook page paints a profile of a painfully stereotypical boomer conservative, he thinks Bernie Sanders is a communist and Joe Biden pressed the make gas expensive button

    My mom listens to Adam Carolla

    My surviving grandma is 91 and watches Fox News all day, weeping for how bad California looks now with all the homeless people living on bridges but not a thought for the people and where they're supposed to fucking go since simply existing in public is basically illegal for them

  • I'm very thankful that my family is full of leftists. Some of these posts tell me I'd be traumatized if I lived in some of these households. Instead I get to hear my dad go on hour long rants about the US Empire and how the president of El Salvador is a fascist dumbass. He does tend to say things during those rants that could be labelled as problematic but he's also a farmboy from a rural area in a developing country.

  • Teaching my grandkid that racism was invented by Judeo-Bolshevik agent provocateur Trotsky to shame and silence white people from being, well, racist. Meemaw and Pep Pep are just happy you're back.

  • I'm glad that the one aunt I have who went down the conspiracy rabbithole has been cut off from the rest of the family (she tried to force her unvaccinated ass into the hospital our grandma was staying shortly before her death to rant about the dangers of vaccinations, luckily no one gave her the room number)

  • I don't talk with my mom too often but she'll email me the most horrific reactionary comedy central comedian stand-ups. I don't even know how to respond to the latest, they were usually just problematic but the most recent one is just a straight up fascist creating a "class" out of nothing, insulting it, and dividing it from every other imaginary class he can come up with.

    It makes me feel really sad sometimes. I made it very clear that we hated fox and wouldn't let her have it on the TV while visiting her but the last time I mentioned it she said she doesn't watch them anymore anyways - it's OAN all the way. Someone else mentioned it below and I hadn't really noticed it before but, if she's away from the TV, tablet, or phone for too long she does seem to get fidgety and agitated.

    I sometimes wish I had spoken up sooner about it to her. I doubt it would have stopped her but maybe it would have slowed the descent, or I could at least absolve myself of a little bit more of the guilt.

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