All the things you want is only possible with a Harris win. You want a better political system and stuff like ranked choice voting or viable third parties? Only happens with the Democrats in control. Nothing that you want will EVER happen with Republicans in control and a vote for a third party in this election does nothing but help Republicans.
If you're refusing to hold your nose and vote Harris because of some bs reason like 'she hasn't earned my vote' when the alternative is a demented fascist that supports stuff like monitoring womens' periods then you deserve all the vote shaming you get.