Anon tries to understand his coworker

I wonder if you have a different definition of flirting, because the end goal of flirting is not necessarily to gain a relationship.

Coffee is a great first date if you met on a dating app. It's a public location where you can both meet in person for the first time and chat but neither of you is forced to stay if things aren't shaping up how you expected.

But if you already know each other then yeah, coffee isn't much of a date.

Coffee is boring if you are boring. That's why some people are against it.

Even if you want to do something more interesting than coffee, find something better than "let's go together to a remote area where no one will hear you scream or find your body" or even just "you'll be stuck the whole afternoon with no way out if it turns out you don't like me." If you want to do something like that, I would recommend a climbing gym or something like that instead. It's public and it's easy to leave, two things you should make sure to include in a first date.

Not sure if this was above posters point, but this was pointed out to me once...

As a guy who typically dates girls, you're asking a woman to go out in the woods alone with you to a place that likely has no cell service and no way to contact anyone and is typically for the most part completely isolated from civilization.

The whole purpose of buying the boat going on a hike in the first place was to get the ladies nice and tipsy top side alone, so we can take them to a nice comfortable place below deck, and you know, they can't refuse...because of the implication.

Most people just aren't into that

Everyone keeps saying she was flirting, but I really think she was just trying to make a friend, but everyone saw 'flirting' because of their genders. The post literally says she has no friends.

This is why women tend to be wary of friendships with guys; any time we do, we get come on to because any amount of friendly interaction is perceived as flirting, or ditched because the guy we thought we were trying to befriend finds out we have a boyfriend.

Shit, if I were this girl who struggled to make friends, thought I had found one finally, but get friend-dumped when they find out they can't fuck me (for the millionth time in her life, I'm sure), I'd probably quit, too.

Indeed. But some people come across like that. I had a friend who never realised they were seeming super flirty all the time when really they were just being nice to people.

Also 4chan so easily a lie.

She didn't go that's the point. He could have had her backed into a cupboard when he asked for all we know.

How did that turn out?

It depends. Generally speaking they're free. I was told by a ranger at the Great Smokey Mountains National Park that they don't enforce (or at least specifically weren't that day) parking passes and only give people courtesy notices to pay for parking. They were only ticketing people parking in places that weren't actual parking spots or blocking areas.

Generally speaking I think you can expect to pay about $5 on average, some places maybe more (like if it's a trail in a city, then parking is usually more costly). But in tons of places it's just totally free.

My point is that anon thinking he was being used was hilarious because it's extraordinarily cheap.

Or she genuinely wanted a friend and anon is so attention starved he can't see the difference.

I wouldn't want to go back to that awkward situation either.

I don't necessarily agree she was leading him on. It was a miscommunication. It's an extremely common story if men misinterpreting women's behavior as pursuit when it is often just friendly. Even then, platonic flirting is a thing. If anon really intended for this to be a date, why did he at no point ask if she was single? We can sit here all day and debate whether the girl's "flirting" was appropriate or not and whether she should've said she had a boyfriend, but it goes both ways. What we do know is that, to anon, this was a date and that anon never asked if she was single at any point in the two weeks.

You know you only have his side of this story right?

politically correct in a more social the kind of thing a person should do context, like cultural norms

Why would "gender swapping" (putting gay people in the shelf I guess) make poorly communicating, or even lying about, intentions be okay then?