"I WANT ALL THE CLOUD THINGS RIGHT NOW FOR FREE AND I REFUSE TO COMPROMISE 🦶🦶🦶🦶"
That's what these requests read like.
Look, these people have a product with a good UI and sharing for a reason. Anything else you find that doesn't hit that mark is because of that. Make concessions for what you really need, build your own, or continue stomping around about it.
Yep. You can pay with your data, you can pay a corporation, or you can pay open source developers directly.
If someone can't afford to pay, or doesn't believe in it, that's fine, and that's part of what open source is, which is amazing. But if you're in a position to support foss developers, and they created something useful for you, I think it's the least we can do.
Your rant doesn't make sense. Asking for suggestions because you're not OK with being spied on (especially when you're perfectly willing to absorb the hosting costs yourself or pay for a service that isn't hostile) is perfectly valid behavior.
There's a corner of the FOSS community that is all like "you should jump ship on literally any software that is not clean and pure of corporate interests" but also "can't blame FOSS software for not being good unless you're in the process of making your own". It's... kinda confusing.