1mo ago

I am once again asking...

Borrowed from lemmy.zip

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Presses reply
Types an insightful comment
Looks at it. There’s something wrong with it. He just doesn’t know what.
Erases it. Starts over.
*Still doesn’t feel right *
Hits cancel, discards the comment, and goes back to doom scrolling.
- How often did you contemplate posting this comment?
  
  A couple times haha
  
  I can tell with the editing lol
- I worry the same way, but mostly just when I'm commenting on something hurtful. Like if a commenter is being agonizingly wrong about something really important, spreading lies, you know the kind. I'll get worked up and start writing a comment, but realize that any point I make can be nitpicked and invalidated even if it's broadly correct. So I don't post those comments.
  But when it's not in response to someone being inflammatory, I feel better about just doing my best with what I write. If someone has a correction, well that's a good thing! I'll acknowledge it and edit my comment to include the better info I'm given. I can hope that the people reading it don't see that I was wrong on one point and decide I'm completely wrong because I try to interact respectfully.
- writes three paragraph comment
  edits comment for 10 minutes to make it as succinct as possible
  realizes it has nothing to do with parent comment
  deletes comment
  Back on reddit, a good half of the comments I would have left got deleted as soon as I posted them. Lemmy has forced me to make sure I've said something relevant, because if I leave a comment and then delete it, everyone gets to know that I did that, and that makes me feel even worse than saying something slightly off topic
  
  I mean, if it is not related to a specific "parent comment", you could simply post it as a 1st rank comment to the post instead?
- I felt this in my bones.
- Same, but I cannot even get to the reply phase. Also I am bad at commenting/posting anything good.
- I figure that there are plenty of other people that can tell me what's wrong with my comment, so just post it and let others work for you for free.

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