oscardejarjayes [comrade/them] @hexbear.net

7d ago

Grapefruit - Trans Megathread from March 31st, 2025 to April 6th, 2025

Warning: Grapefruit can interact with drugs, such as decreasing the effectiveness of estradiol, making Oxycodone last longer, increasing blood levels when on Viagra, and much more.

Grapefruit inhibits multiple enzymes in the small intestine, most notably CYP3A4. CYP3A4 is involved in the breaking down of a lot of drugs, so when it's inhibited Oxycodone becomes inactive slower, and estradiol won't break down all the way into estrogen. Drugs that are affected by grapefruit will often have warnings on their packaging

Personally, I like putting just a little bit of salt on my grapefruit, to counteract the bitter flavor. Dumping sugar on it doesn't help. Grapefruits are about half as sour as lemons, since they have half the citric acid content.

Grapefruits were accidentally created as a cross between the sweet orange and the pomelo, in Barbados. Those fruits originate from Asia, but were brought to the Caribbean in the 17th century. Since it's parent fruits are native to Asia, it grows well in Asia too.

and

(China and Vietnam) are the two largest producers of Grapefruits, producing collectively 6.3 million tons out of the 9.8 million tons of worldwide production.

The painting was made by Robert Papp, who has a website here: https://robertpapp.com/. I don't really know anything about the guy.

The lemon things with all of the recipes was really cool, but to be honest I just like grapefruit raw, cut in half and ate with a spoon.

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hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!
the list as it stands:

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* after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters
- Can I be put on the end of the list?
  
  that works!
- Stick me at the end of the list
  
  done and done

Started doing the ring glitch in
unleashed to make sonic consume hundreds of chili dogs. Like it works but damn I don't think I'm a major fan of this level up mechanic. I understand it in secret rings beforehand, with how short the game is they had to do something to pad it out (though with how broken a level 99 sonic is I'm eh). Anyway maxed out day time sonic now need to fully unleash the (were)HOG

::: spoiler relationship shit I'm 99% breaking up with my long term gf.
Tonight.
Been a long time coming, i just need to actualize it.
On the other hand I started seriously talking online to this enby that's been super cool and has the same kind of adhd and autism as me and it's been crazy fun. We've known each other for a year but recently got super into things together in the last month.
I'm trying not to conflate the two events, but being around this new person has made me realize how stagnant my relationship got and how important queerness is to me in relationships, platonic or otherwise. I also realized how my gf is still kinda seeing me the same way she's always seen me even if she's been supportive to my transition, whereas this new person treats me... like a woman? idk it's different for sure. I don't know where things are going with this new person but they're super flirty with me and me with them. We're both poly (though my relationship wasn't so I've even monog in practice) and things have been freeing hearing about them and their experiences. We're kinda sorta making plans to meet up later this year or next and I'm almost in disbelief that this is happening so fast and they are as well.
idk im scared and excited and nervous and

I rewatched Legally Blonde last night and I was surprised how well it holds up. Especially how unproblematic it is.
There's bi-erasure with the pool guy (but they had only just invented bisexuals in the 90s so it might have not have reached them).
The autistic guy is a bit rough but displayed as morally good and helps Elle in the last act.
The character of Enid Wexler is interesting because it feels like she's mean spirited in intent but just comes off as cool af in modern context.
She's a black Jewish lesbian with a PhD in women's studies (with an emphasis on combat) who organised a lesbian march against drunk driving. That feels like a conservative joke but none of that is bad. In fact it's cool.
Even the scene where she has cornered the cishet white Warner (who the film agrees sucks), and is telling him the university should change the name of "semester" to "ovester" could be fixed with a wink to show she's yanking his chain.

Money me. Me needing money a lot now

my bralettes have been feeling a bit tighter recently which either means my tits or my muscles are getting bigger. either one is fucking great

E gave me freckles! Never knew that could happen

Ugh. Both my parents are being weird about my gender

Should I actually look at myself in the mirror?

In non dating news, my ears have healed up enough (8+ weeks post piercing) for trying out new pairs. Well out last night with some spiked hoops and some chain earcuffs. The earmuffs didn't match since I didn't interpret the multipack product description correctly, but I was able to use a pair of those pieces and mod them into a better option (one of the cuffs has a dangling stud, the other a dangling sword.) I didn't get any specific compliments on those, but got a ton of compliments on my outfit in general, especially my studded PU leather jacket. I honestly thought it was a bit much or a bit corny, but I guess my inner alt/goth girl knows better than my grown-up woman brain.

The Caro-Kann goes hard

I'm learning kernel module development for the first time and so far the most challenging thing is typing "dmseg" correctly and remembering that I have to use sudo for pretty much every command

Is my hair getting in my mouth going to get better when it gets a bit longer or is this just an issue I have to deal with now? It was kinda cool at first but now its like every time I eat

What’s beeping

::: spoiler cw bodily misfunctions
Im shidding blood out my dodo ass and it not ok. Hope its not colon cancer

Redbook keeps showing me cute gel nails, like the colors the smoothness and all the designs you could make are mesmerizing with the use of a small UV light are inspiring me. I still got loads of regular polish, if I make the switch I don't think I'm going back

I was looking into a new outfit, red leather with black spikes, but when searching for pieces I came across a "Descendants 4: Rise of Red" jacket and it destroyed me. I don't think I can recover from being called out as a poser like this.

Estrogen isn't enough. I want a sword

Riding that "im disgusting"/"im hot" rollercoaster rn.

if a game lets me adjust my facial hair I should also be able to adjust my boob size

high femme? I sure am hits bong and starts to cough in a way that makes me dysphoric

A chud called me a "she."
Damn. That shocked me.

One of the things I love about my name is the nicknames/ways to shorten it
Maybe I need to tell people I'm okay with that? Maybe I'm overthinking this but I feel like people might be more hesitant about that kind of thing because I'm trans.

I made the grave mistake of leaving the house without my umbrella and now I'm no longer a member of cute gang

They made an emoji of me 🫩

A friend took me to see a movie and she promised me it wasn't that scary, but the first thirty minutes or whatever was like the scariest thing I've ever seen (after that it was okay). Just sat and stared into my lap in the cinema and now I won't be able to sleep tonight
Feel exhausted after watching it

reminder that transition is a marathon and not a race. for example, im almost 3 years into hormones and i only just installed linux

Chappelle Ronin

cum is stored in the brain

Joining the war on women, on the side of women.

Anyone here have issues staying asleep? Before transition I didn't have real issues with this but since transition it's been a problem. I got on some sleeping pills but am scared of getting addicted to them so I only take them every so often.
Idk if sleeping is just... Gonna be difficult from now on? Or if it's anxiety? Idk.

::: spoiler dysphoria
oh my fucking god my school put up a photo of me in a cap and gown with me faking a smile cause my mom threatened me to do on the wall of the hallway AND THIS WAS WITHOUT MY CONSENT WHAT THE FUCK

I have a job where I send correspondence back to doctors. My personal quirk is I use no title and first name for male doctors. And Dr surname for female doctors. Because I'm respecting women here.

Hard to believe there was a time when the trans mega was getting over 2k posts per week

- Your friend is
  as fuck.
- Let's gooooo

Grapefruit also amplifies the effect of many SSRIs such as Sertraline (Zoloft) & Citalopram (Lexapro) as it inhibits the drug being metabolised and removed from your bloodstream. Very important to avoid grapefruit if you use this class of antidepressants!

Weight cycling is a fuck. What do you mean i have to lose a ton of weight just to put it back on and do it again???

good thing I got some Ozempic today so I can just do it the easy way
- (Disclaimer: Not my field of expertise, just something I heard in other trans spaces) Isn't weight cycling a myth (and a potentially harmful one if you overdo it)? Because I think the fat redistribution depends purely on how fast your old lipocytes die (to be replaced in other parts of your body), which can't really be sped up AFAIK. Losing/gaining weight I think will just reduce/increase fat deposits across all your body, with no regard to location.
  The path to fat redistribution is a healthy lifestyle and time.
- If you don't want to weight cycle, you don't really have to. Body fat redistributes with time and hrt. This requires patience, but so does every other part of transitioning.
  
  oh hell no. I've been trying to to since the start of my transition and been super disappointed with how hard it'z been. Body fat distribution is one of, if not my biggest source of dysphoria. I hate it and I'm getting rid of this fucking man gut with the cheat code shots
  i appreciate the kind words though
- hexbear notification
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  alright then, keep your secrets

Does anyone know how long on average it takes to get account approval? Sent some trans people this way a couple days ago, and obviously there’s a lot going on with re-federation and such. Haven’t made a new account since the open signup turned into application questions so not familiar with how long the process takes.
- Do note you won't get any emails, so if they are waiting for that, they have to try logging in to know.
  
  That sounds possible, I don’t really know these people other than being leftist and trans, or how tech-savvy they may be. Thank you, I’ll pass that along next time.
- I made this account just the other day. I made my application in the evening and it was approved by the time I checked the next morning

- ouch mood
  patpatpatpats

we'll probably be more of a butch tomboy when we're further in transition but right now we just want pretty spinny dresses n skirts n stuff :3
- I do both frequently.
- You can do both. Tomboys be spinning too sometimes.

What do you call it if a leftist starts DIYing large numbers of bootleg Plan B and abortion pills?

Grapefruit can also interfere with birth control
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- Not every form! But yeah, it will for hormonal birth control

My life is scrapping the bottom of the peanut butter jar hoping there's enough left for one more sandwich.
- mood
- We should make the jar itself edible
  
  You're so real for that. I agree.

the lyrics for youtopia by bmth feel so eggy, even though I'm sure it wasn't meant that way
It's like I walked into a dream
And stepped out of the coma
- feel this way about a few smashing pumpkins songs

looks like my pharmacy forgot to inform me after suddenly switching me from testosterone cypionate to enanthate. the pharmacist just called and urged me to lower my dose from 0.50ml to 0.25ml because enanthate has a higher concentration which means i was taking a double dose of my usual on cypionate for the past few weeks. only thing is that i've been feeling really great on the higher dose??? idk i'm kinda wrestling if i should listen or not cause i've just been feeling way less like shit all the time and more normal. i've also seen other trans mascs talk about taking 100mg a week so maybe that's just a better dose for me??? idk
- maybe that's just a better dose for me??? idk
  maybbbee? have u gotten bloodwork to check ur levels?
  
  definitely planning to get them checked cause this really makes me wonder if my levels were actually too low
- Doubling your dose is not something you should do blindly on your own. Definitely discuss this with your doctor first (if you have this option).
  
  i will probably try and talk to him but i've been sort of avoidant since last time we had an appointment he started suggesting i stop hrt entirely out of nowhere like