I've been trying to get some friends signed up on my lemmy instance.
The issue is, so far nobody seems to be receiving the signup/verification emails. I am getting the admin user-signup emails, but those are sent to contact@<instance-domain>. I created 2 test users, one with a instance-domain address, and one to a gmail. The instance-domain address was there within a minute, but the gmail one has yet to arrive.
It looks like you aren't signing your mail with DKIM, don't have SPF set up right, don't have a DMARC policy, and don't have RcRDNS, all of which basically any mail provider will require from you to even consider accepting your mail. Basically without all of that literally anyone can pretend to be whatever.com and send email from it.
yeah, I'm just using the default local mailserver that comes with Lemmy. the contact address is just a redirect to a gmail account. Didn't even realize I needed all of that. I'll probably end up just going through a smtp relay on one of their free tiers to avoid figuring this all out.
Yeah... they really shouldn't be shipping that mail relay at all IMO, just leads to confusion.
I do run my own mail and assuming it's reasonably low volume would be more than happy to get you set up to use my mailserver instead of relying on something like sendgrid or postmark.
Alternatively if you want some help getting your own set up in a dockerized way I run my mail using docker-mailserver and if only set up for outgoing mail it is pretty easy to run, though you may will run into deliverability issues...
yeah, at the very least it should be commented out so that you know it's not just setup and go.
I appreciate the offer! I've actually already got myself setup on Brevo, though I might look into docker-mailserver in the future. If it's alright, I'll ping you if I/when I do that if I need help.