I homeschooled for a few years in an area without school shootings (not the USA). It was weird for me because I don't think kids belong in factories and want/ed to get my kids real critical thinking and media literacy.
I'm apparently a gigantic weirdo and struggled to hold conversations with other homeschooling parents because they were most definitely not interested in helping their kids have independent thought.
That's something I'm concerned about too. I want to get away from the academic factory model, but I don't want to associate with the religious loonies to do it.
As a person who homeschools his three kids, it is tough but it is possible to find folks. We've lived in some pretty remote places and there's usually at least a few families within a half-hour drive. In cities, it's a lot easier.