Use Graphene, Lineage or DivestOS (fork of Lineage) . Graphene and Divest enable you to sandbox all Google BS if you need it, and Dos uses their own we view from Mull.
The commercial version comes with an android emulator.
It's not recommended for non-technical people, it sometimes crashes, it has random bugs that will drive you insane, and currently the weather app can't connect to the service that provides the weather data.
But:
The people making it are not seeing you as the product and you will be free of all the bullshit.
Because Apple are: closed system, unrepairable, proprietary, refuse to adopt standards, elitist and exclusionary, and generally less flexible and customizable. They are a baby toy, they are any recent BMW, and they are jerks about it.
And somehow, that's becoming the better option over thieves and scammers with bad intentions. I may have to go with the assholes over the bastards. It doesn't feel great.
I get you, but calling iOS a toy just makes you sound childish and ignorant. I don't use apple for the same reasons, but iOS right now offers by far the most polish, mature and thought-through experience. In the meantime, Android continues to change everything on a whim every couple versions to nonsensical defaults. The UI keeps getting worse.
But I just can't stand the inability of customizing iOS. Google is strangling the platform, replacing FOSS features with Google counterparts, and if it wasn't for Samsung and maybe a few other big ones, they would probably have abandoned AOSP by now.
iOS right now offers by far the most polish, mature and thought-through experience
If you want to do it exactly as they allow you to. Everytime you try to deviate from Apples happy path there are suddenly thorns everywhere and you find yourself without any support, be it on iOS or MacOS