Like it's the most annoying format every where 2 year olds always complain about your deck and don't actually want you to win but just shuffle cards around for no reason and if you ever win they all just complain that you are playing a good deck (which is the entire point of the game), because all the annoying salty people don't let others play what they want there is no interaction and the boards just fill up with 90 creatures and stupid 5 card combos that shouldn't be playable and it's a huge mess where no one even understands what's going on, like how is this the most popular mtg format
Yes, I used to have the same problem. It used to feel like it was full of invisible and unwritten rules that all contradicted each other. Getting bullied if cards are too strong or too weak.
Casual EDH, that is: as you point out, competitive EDH doesn't have the same problem.
What I finally realized was that I shouldn't approach it as a game.
I should approach EDH deckbuilding like a crossword maker approaches making a crossword:
To try to create something that is a challenge but beatable.
It's easy to create an unsolvable crossword. Just a bunch of white noise in a grid. But that's just no fun to anyone. A good crossbow maker wants the crossword solver to have fun and to enjoy the puzzle, to tease them a bit but keep it realistic and grounded.
Now, a game of EDH isn't a puzzle, but it's an experience.
I started out making my first EDH deck super weak (it's built around Tolarian Serpent) and have gradually been adding powerful cards or interactive cards or cards where I just like the art or the experience or the memory of when I first opened the card. I have a foil Rethink even though there are a lot better stack interaction cards, but it was just the first foil I ever opened so playing it makes me happy. The deck is still weaker than many of precons are out of the box so I still have a ways to go with it but that can be a gradual process of tweaking and modding.
It can sometimes be super boring. But sometimes it can be really charming and fun. For people who get into the lore, the experience, the flavor, or expressing yourself through weird combos. 🤷🏻♀️
For a Magic that's more akin to D&D than to chess or poker.
It's not good of people who wanna 💯 win. Which, granted, often is me, but that's when I reach for other formats 🤷🏻♀️
But the point of magic is not be D&D. In my opinion D&D is a terrible game because the rules are arbitrary and you're supposed to sit there and hallucinate or something. What makes mtg a good game is that there are concrete rules and a clear objective, if you have arbitrary nonsense like rule 0 and aren't even supposed to win then you might as well just not play, the whole point is to win like I don't get it
I don't like a lot of "on a whim" lolrandom hatpullery either, but rule zero can be great if it's done with enough advance notice. House rules can be wonderful at creating fair, unusual, and skill-testing formats, where you can compete and test your mettle even when you can't afford the hottest meta decks.
D&D can feel meaningless with a DM with a finger on the scale, but not everyone plays D&D like that.
There is more than one way to enjoy Magic, and not everyone needs to be into every way to play. I don't wanna try to force you to play EDH, and I wouldn't even if it was one of my fave formats, which it's not.
It's just that I used to have some of the same problems and frustrations with it, and my new approach to it (to approach deckbuilding as if I were a game designer, sort of like how I'd build a cube or set or battlebox or set of duel decks) solved some of those problems while other issues remain.
idk playing for some lore reason or whatever seems boring to me the point of the game is to win. And when I tried playing it's not always even the hyper competitive decks but I like stuff like mass land destruction and prison. But they players don't want any interaction refuse to play boseiju,fow or any of the cards to defend themselves from others decks. They just want to police what you play they want to force you to play what their useless deck that ramps for 6 turns before even pretending to do anything and anything that interacts with them in ANY way is toxic because they don't even want to play just win themselves with no opposition to feel good about their shitty deck. Like you want to play mono green ramp but I can't destroy your lands, kill your creates or counter your spells? That seems fair
@user75736572@Sandra most commander players I know are happy with any interaction that doesn't prevent them playing magic. Which is a long way short of your wild straw man.
Have you tried cEDH?
If you could give a pod for that, you might find a play group more to your liking. Everyone's trying to win as efficiently as possible.