(M23) Going through the usual breakup with (M23)
(M23) Going through the usual breakup with (M23)
Been with this guy for 3 years now, I have been making plans in my head for when we are able to move in together, while unfortunately we were in a long distance relationship we still had a lot in common and were able to enjoy our time online together playing videogames and watching movies with the occasional visit once every 4 months or so for a week.
Such a pretty relationship, I feel, like I'm enjoying his company throughout my days of studying and university. But anyways, he feels like he doesn't want to try to make our relationship workout anymore, so basically breaking up with me. I told him before I let him finish, that I'm gonna be a bit stubborn and still go ahead with my visit in 10 days to go talk to him in person to actually do this. He sighed, and said that he owes me that atleast. This is the 3rd time he's trying to break up with me, and last time he promised that he'd wait for me and that he won't break up with me again and that I'd be the one to do so. Just my trust in him is shattered after this.
I am just not sure which way to take this, try to continue with the visit and maybe still stay together or just decide not to go and cut him off from being friends. I'm not sure, part of me wants to still go and do agree we need to break up and just leave the relationship without a sour taste in the mouth, and maybe in the future be friends again.
Edit: Feeling better bout the break up now, I do know I'm not getting back together with them and probably not gonna talk to them for a very long time. I've reached out and made a new friend and I'll keep on trying to find new ones to help with the being lonely part. Looking forwards to it
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This is the 3rd time he’s trying to break up with me, and last time he promised that he’d wait for me and that he won’t break up with me again and that I’d be the one to do so. Just my trust in him is shattered after this.
I know you like him, but that second time should have been the sign to walk (if the first one wasn't enough).
I am just not sure which way to take this, try to continue with the visit and maybe still stay together or just decide not to go and cut him off from being friends.
If there's no chance of a compromise between the two positions (ie don't visit, say you get the message but you can stay friends. Just as long as you know that, a few months from now, you won't be trying to talk him into giving it another chance) then I suppose you go with the latter option.
Yeah this does sound like the better option, it's not like I'm the one apologizing.
I don't know either of you or your dynamic but it looks almost inevitable that, if you flew out there and talked it through, you'd agree to give things another go. Then a few months later you'd be right back at this point again.
He's said he doesn't want the relationship to continue three times, you need to accept that and do whatever you feel you need to do to ensure it doesn't happen a fourth time as this isn't good for either of you. If that means cutting off all contact then so be it.
I do feel like that way too, I do know that this time it really is better if i dont continue this relationship.