Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?
Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?
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Because for many people maturing into an adult means taking on and fulfilling responsibilities. It gives many people meaning and satisfaction, often not at the individual moment, but over the course of a life.
Others don't feel that way.
A third category think they don't feel that way, but realize too late that they do.
interesting how you only see the third category going one way
Interesting that it bothered you enough to comment on it.
I've worked in hospice care in the past. I'm sure there are people that regret taking on responsibility in their life, but the most desperate people I encountered were the ones that realized that they are at the end of their life and realized that they will never have the opportunity to "finally" take on challenges and/or responsibility.
Imagine a panic attack that doesn't go away because the time you have left is measured in days, weeks, or maybe months, you know it, and there is nothing you can do to address a lifetime of regret, which intensifies the panic.
Usually the best that can be done at that point is "comfort care," which is drugs. And I would just see them cry, fade, cry, fade, cry, fade, and then die alone. It's horrifying to see, and it sticks with you.
Life isn't a movie or game, and no one is the main character.
Yeah, experiencing that is a horror I wouldn't wish on anyone. That's a true nightmare.
I don't think having kids of my own is in my future, I hope I can live my life with enough intent and purpose to avoid this date. Thank you both for this thread, it's gotten me thinking.