Self-reflection is hot

Yep, sometimes we're talking about something at work and in the middle of explaining my point I understand the flaw and just "oh, nevermind, you guys are righ" always a good exercise in logic and humility
- I regularly encourage my co workers to speak out loud with me when going over processes or thoughts because by bouncing it between the 2 of us it's more likely that one of us will spot the massive glowing mistake someone made
  So far it's been working quite well as we build out an entirely new SOP from scratch
  
  Yeah I’ve been going crazy as I don’t have anyone else in my department for this. Like I don’t see the flaws in my thoughts until I start explaining shit to my boss because when you’re working on something your head is in a very different place from discussing it
- The best managers and experts are like this. It's good to be wrong and take it like a champ.

Wait .. that's not normal?
- An unfortunate number of people view debates as "winning" vs "losing" and tie their ego to it.
  
  I love debating, and especially love it when I get the chance to be wrong and learn from my mistakes. Man, I really am a weirdo.
  
  I strongly think it's because people can grow up trained to tie their identity to their beliefs and values. Self reflection becomes a direct attack on their identity.
  
  Isn't that literally the point of debate though? Like it's not just a discussion, it's about arguing your case the best? That's how I've understood it anyway
  
  Ew
- Too many people think arbitrary lines in the sand on random topics before science has any means to catch up is a debate vs a discussion. The lens at which you're looking at it through is one of the most important topics to start off with. The 'debate' which follows hinges almost exclusively on finding/arguing for the semantics of your definition.
  I've had one too many 'debates' about whether true AI has a 'soul' when people can barely tell me how they define Artificial Intelligence (generalized now bleugh) succinctly.
  The more recent one was whether humans have 'free will'. Meanwhile every three paragraphs or so the other guy was dropping nonsensical memes with figurative 'gotchas' while two of us were sharing constantly lol.
  After all the fun tangents from natural discussion the gotcha guy started to get a chip on the shoulder like so many of the types do. I had to flat out ask him how he even defined free will and he couldn't even give me a clear answer lol. I started talking about semantics and he dropped the 'you know arguing semantics isn't a bad thing right?'
  Like yeah dude... That's nearly half the reason we make new words to better define things. It's literally arguing semantics, that's what half of debate is at it's essence. People arguing positions wildly 'different' from the other person because they refused to believe this WORD/IDEA includes these definitions.
  You then get to the point of 'debate' when you inarguably come to a line in the sand that becomes yes/no on opposite sides. Walk away knowing that's why they believe what they believe because that's the root of their definition.
  Then you hopefully wait for science to catch up... or just arbitrarily declare you win!... then get angry because everyone else isn't as mad about it as you were so now you gotta pretend like you didn't have a chip on your shoulder the whole time because you equate being right with your worth rather than being right for the sake of being right or trying to understand someone deeper.
  
  You win, but I'm not mad.

I was hanging out with my friend in his backyard and we heard some incredibly loud birds. I asked if he knew what they were and he said he thought robins.
I suggested we should go out with [some other friends who recently got into birding] and he wasn't on board...
"Ehhh birding is like....you gotta go out to the woods and walk around until you hear one...so you're just kinda chillin there..."
I interrupted him. "Dude...you love hanging out. You love hiking. You LOVE the woods."
"Yeah. I realized as soon as I started talking that I'd love it but I just let my mind form an argument anyway for some reason"

"-- on second thought, now that I've said it aloud I realize I've mischaracterized the issue. I rescind my case, sorry bout that folks, not sure how I mucked that one up"

Unless you're a professional philosopher, in which case you should keep on going with your argument even if you don't like it. This, according to a formal philosophy professor, is a thing that happens--you start an argument and end up somewhere that you don't like but that's where the logic leads.
- I often have discussions with myself, where I take stances that I utterly don't support, just to see how I would argue against them.
  It helps with decision making, because earlier you believed something was true, but now you know for sure.
  
  That is really clever! I was proud of myself as an undergrad for having gone through the Practical Reasoning/Critical Thinking classes. You took it to another level.
  
  People need to have good faith dialogues with themselves more often, I don't think it's something most people do with any frequency or regularity. Easier just to occupy your internal monologue with a bunch of background noise, like a podcast or something.

If it's a friend I just double down for shits and giggles
- Shit, I have a friend where we start out doubling down on the over emphatic belief. It's a running joke

I have done this multiple times at work when discussing different approaches and my suggestion was missing some assumptions. Also at home when I start talking through what is needed to fix something and I switch to "Let's call a professional."
Wish more people were as open because when a few people do that together things get done really fast and with minimal issues.

is there a word for this?
i bet if there is, it's German for some reason.
- Nah we don't need a word for that we are always right
  
  Oh hey my family wasn’t lying when they said they’re German.
- self-awareness

I sometimes experience the opposite. When I'm in a meeting and I haven't been listening or couldn't be arsed to prepare the topic we're discussing and I am suddenly called to speak on it, I just go on autopilot and start talking. Very often I think to myself "Wow, I really made a lot of sense". I am so glad it works most of the time, because I really don't want to put the work in.
- I did the same thing back in school. I used to not prepare for a topic because I'm better at yapping than at presenting actual facts. I used to always get a "woow we can tell how much you have read about the topic" form the teacher. I should really become a politician.

I regularly rubber duck to my partners to figure out if my idea is bad. Sometimes something sounds good bouncing around in your brain, but hearing the words out loud make you realize just how dumb some of the things you think are at times.

I am an unwilling contrarian so I do both of these all the time

I always double down when those thoughts creep in. No one can change my mind, not even me. I know that person and they're an idiot.

One more reason to stick to having heated discussions with myself.

I never do this, but I also never really try to argue with people about my actual opinions, because that rarely tends to work out ime

Or maybe -- and this might be radical so hear me out -- normalize thinking before you speak.
- Does that mean stop thinking while speaking though?
  Most people think most of the time.
  
  Nope.
- Lazy thinking is a feature, not a bug. We’re social animals. Collective ideation is more effective and calorie-efficient.
  The idea of individual intelligence kinda flies in the face of our evolutionary history.
  But the “great man” myth helps powerful people stay powerful, so in some ways peddling the importance of individual intelligence is also part of our evolutionary history.