Expecting you to treat people with basic respect is not policing your words. Do you go around calling black people the negroes? I hope not. Is it because you think that's extremely disrespectful? I hope so.
It doesn't take much effort to spot black people. I know how to treat them with respect because that's easy. Again, I'm just lazy a little spiteful. Sorry not sorry.
It's really not the big effort you seem to think it is. If someone looks like a man to you, you refer to them with masculine pronouns and if they correct you, you apologize and go with the pronouns they prefer.
The point is that you don't keep doing it when they tell you that you're using the wrong pronouns.
Why do you think people should only care about what you care about and not care about the things you don't care about?
You sound like you come from a position of privilege and have not been treated with the maliciousness and even violence trans people have to deal with on a daily basis.
I suppose asking you to put yourself in their shoes would be too much?
The system I am actually trying to dismantle is what is oppressing these people, not me. I have my sights set on the big targets and find the trans movement to be a divisive distraction. I have sympathy but it's not really my battle. My battle is one that affects all of us, not just some of us.
You are part of that system if you don't give them the basic respect of self-identity they are due. If that is not part of your fight, you're part of the problem.
there's a very good chance that the same bigots that use the N word are the same enemy as the one that supports the right. JK Rowling is not my enemy though.
guilty as charged. I'm an equal opportunity asshole these days and don't really care. no one is going to help change the things that are important to me, so I'm really not interested in your sad song.