Littering.
When someone carelessly throws their trash on the ground, that says a huge amount about their respect for other people, their feelings about the environment, and even their views on social equality.
It's a tiny thing, but an immediate dealbreaker.
People who throw their trash on the ground are the same people who yell and get mad at minimum-wage staff, while those staff hold back tears. They are the people who take more food at a buffet restaurant than they could ever even eat. They are the people who think the world and everyone in it owes them whatever they want, but without ever giving anything back.
I bet we all know a person whose car looks like a scary biohazard of old drive-through cups they haven't cleaned yet, but I'd much rather date that person than someone who throws it all out the window.
For me its probably someone who uses tiktok.
During my last relationship my ex started using tiktok and for the few weeks she used it i had to listen to the dumbest "facts" as well as borderline malicious relationship and life advice. The bad misinformation is nothing compared to the repetitive nature of the music. She stopped using it on her own accord I didn't force anything.
I still live with someone who is a heavy tik tok user and almost every time she says "i saw this tiktok.. " I know I'm about to hear some dumb bullshit.
The app manipulates people, wastes their time and is full of undeclared product advertising. For my sanity I cannot date someone who thinks it's OK to use that app.
Cigarettes
I just can’t do it. They’re trashy and they smell terrible. Almost universally friends/partners I’ve had the smoke cigarettes ash wherever they want- like my patio or door step. I had an ex that would chain smoke, ash in front of the door, then put the cigarette out and leave it on the steps.
So now everyone that walks by sees our entryway covered in ash, cigarette butts, and burn marks. Just looks and smells like shit.
That same partner kept an ash tray in the patio. It filled up with water when it rained, and she just… left it. So now the patio smells like soppy wet shit too.
Ever since then cigs are a deal breaker for me. If you don’t respect your body how can you ever respect your environment or relationship?
Anyway.
Celebrity/billionaire worship. Just no. It means their values are wildly erratic.
My home theater. I love movies and if someone said I couldn’t have it hooked up to the main TV I’d walk. I’d rather date someone who either enjoys it or at least it’s neutral on having there.
Also I don’t care if they have a garden. But it will be classified as a hobby, not as yard work or house work when they work in it. Because I’ll never work in one.
Fake nails. I have nothing against people who wear them, but for some reason it just instantly makes me think we are not compatible at all.
Being unnecessarily wasteful with food. Not even attempting to save it or tossing all away over some easily resolvable issue like "I'm not hungry right now" Throws in trash.
Eats with their mouth open or similar mouth noises. It's not misophonia, you're just a degenerate scumbag and I will end your line!
wearing makeup or earrings
turns out i just don't like that
Motor mouth
- Misophonia (slurping, chewing, degenerate behaviour)
- Lack of hygiene (eating with unwashed hands, fingering your nose, scratching your butt, dropping things on floor and eating with same unwashed hands, 5 second rule is mental illness)
- Overwhelming disregard for facts over feelings. Emotions are good but in a limited capacity, and cannot overtake logic in general.
- Brand fever, capitalism culture worshipping.
- Disrespect for your mind, body and soul. If you are fat or unhealthy, do not exercise, are constantly on social media drip feed rotting your brain, you do not exist.
- Emotional copers. Just get shit done.
- Solve your traumas before coming. I am not a part time therapist doing freelancing for you.
- No drugs, no smoking history. Minor to no alcohol.
- No past adultery, and a disgust for infidelity.
