A lot of men have 0 sex, so you saying you have low sex drive still gives them more than 0 sex. But they would be settling for your amount of sex. If someone else can give them more, they will take that. And probably a lot of people have more sex drive than you. So they will entertain you while they have no other options, but as soon as an option with more sex drive opens up, they are dropping you.
You have to look specifically for people that don't really want/need sex, it is your obligation to figure that out.
Dating in general is a numbers game, you have to go through a lot of people to get what you want. But you have to know what you want and actively filter for it, if like right now, it seems you basically entertain everything who is friendly to you, you will have a lot of the other side canceling, not you canceling.
To this I want to add personally, death is a normal part of life. If it's because of old age or humans killing each other doesn't make incredibly much of a difference to me. As long as life existed there was death & suffering. Of course I'm against unnecessary death & suffering. But I'm asking myself, why would I myself add to the suffering by suffering when I see others suffer and I can only very barely help them?
I recently asked that an old childhood friend of mine and his gf. Obviously, they found it hard to answer and a 'weird question'. But what they eventually settled upon as answer was "everything, but mainly other people, the current situation of these people, or their own current situation"
Most policing of other people's behavior is for your own personal benefit, so whatever makes it most likely for the autistic person to behave in the desired way is the "right way" to call it.
Shame and being ostracized are just ways to make sure no one else falls out of line.
It'll continue until it stops working. We need to be individually brave and support each other against stuff like this, and I think all will turn out fine :)
Basically all I'm saying is that your last sentence does not help to prove your credibility. You said it in a way as if it was meant to make people believe in what you're saying, as if it gave weight to the point that you made.
I'm just letting you know that at least for me, it had the opposite effect. I'm not arguing with the rest of your comment.
I'm not saying you did any evil, just that your expertise on this topic is based on corporate ideals which likely aren't compatible with actually good ideals.
My statement was not meant to be any commentary about you as a person.
Stop having a goal with women specifically. You talking about experience and success with women is literally the total opposite of what makes sense.
Just have fun with a person. You have had fun interacting with people before, right? Just do that. The literal only difference is that you can sprinkle in some sexual innuendos or some shit, if you think of it. If not, also fine. Then go home and resume what you always do. Repeat.
If while doing this you ever notice some sexual tension, just do something sexual. Touch them. Or tell them you find them attractive. Or ask to kiss them. Whatever, it literally doesn't matter. If they don't like it, you'll likely notice because they tell you and then you can do something different. If they like it, you'll also likely notice, and continue escalating from there. Touching platonic -> kissing -> making out hair/neck/back-> touching sexually titties/butt -> touching pussy. Natural progression.
If you notice something afterwards, while thinking about it (like someone giving you obvious signals that you completely missed), if you can, just respond to the signal as soon as you notice, don't think "now it's too late". In fact, it's never to late until you tried it and it didn't work.
But yeah, I can't stress this enough. The most important thing is to not expect anything. In fact, maybe you'll never have sexual contact again. It's best if you're content with nothing but masturbating for the rest of your life.
There's been so many grifts, so many bubbles. Societal collapse will happen, but not because of AI is what I'm saying, but by capitalist strategies like infinite growth.
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A lot of men have 0 sex, so you saying you have low sex drive still gives them more than 0 sex. But they would be settling for your amount of sex. If someone else can give them more, they will take that. And probably a lot of people have more sex drive than you. So they will entertain you while they have no other options, but as soon as an option with more sex drive opens up, they are dropping you.
You have to look specifically for people that don't really want/need sex, it is your obligation to figure that out.
Dating in general is a numbers game, you have to go through a lot of people to get what you want. But you have to know what you want and actively filter for it, if like right now, it seems you basically entertain everything who is friendly to you, you will have a lot of the other side canceling, not you canceling.