That is not at all what i am saying at all. That's the second one on this topic to twist my words to fit what they think is the kind of person I am. If you want to read negatively you'll find it everywhere.
Let me state the obvious here. People who are in this situation have to make some tough decisions. I know it sucks, I have friends who went through this and yet I can't even begin to imagine how tough it gets first hand. It does drastically change their lives for the better, but it has consequences. They lose family, they lose friends, and in case of the subject at hand they might lose their job too.
That sucks, but for the vast majority it's still worth it big time in order to be yourself.
Also, what you are saying applies to the individual. For the government, and for things such as these sporting events, they will not 'be' female until they undergo their transformation.
Sometimes you make a decision in life that affects your future in a meaningful way. Becoming a trans is one of those things. Sadly there's no good solution to the problem it causes in sports right now so the only possible answer is to not have them in the competition.
They are not saying to leave them behind, and comparing this to not participating in life is an unfair exaggeration. The situation is far too complicated for that. It's not just about politics here, there's other people involved that would be put at a disadvantage, others that would abuse the situation to gain money, etc.
And yes, I'm well aware of the injustice being done to trans people on every possible level, and that needs to change, this battle itself though is just not the same.
*Edit: I'm reading further down that this "problem" it causes might not be as big as I heard it was in the media. So take this comment with that in mind if you will. It only proves the complexity of the issue though.
I don't think trying to control is the best way of looking at it. There's a hive mind about the fediverse that has a purpose, that wants to protect it as part of the identity of it. So a collective of instances banding together to keep that intact seems right up its alley.
Selfishness is part of the human condition. Tribes needed to fight over resources and mark their territory in order to keep the tribe alive. It's in your instinct.
There have always been borders and territories, and there have always been fights and wars over it.
I don't really see how your "if you don't use it" policy applies here, and I also think the problem of this topic is easier than that.
Would you rather everyone can just walk into your house and take whatever they want? I for one am quite happy with the rules and morals we keep.
Those flags put up are often there to keep different cultures with different rules apart. It's not as easy as erasing borders to have a free world. People are too selfish for that.
Sure, governments still steal all the time. Things are definitely not perfect, but that's not related to someone stealing your lighter.
The ones who keep healthcare for everyone, have guns under control and keep most companies privacy policy in check. We don't point at one politician to do the job for us, it's at least a hundred.
You could also die tomorrow and the red pill could save you.