I think I understand your argument as being "in a vacuum, being autistic isn't bad", which i agree with in a way; being neurodivergent in any sense technically isn't a bad thing, just a different thing. However, especially with people who are very autistic to the point of struggling to take care of themselves, autism and other neurodivergence can definitely present huge challenges and difficulties for the person themselves and the people around them. We do not live in a vacuum and society as it stands and has stood for hundreds of years is simply not built to be neurodivergent-friendly. At all. I have ADHD which many would think is "not as bad" as autism, yet I have struggled and gone through so mich pain and difficulties simply because of it. It has been an overall net negative. I suspect I may be a bit autistic too, but don't use the label as I haven't gone out of my way to seek a formal diagnosis. In any case, saying that autism isn't "a bad thing" can be touchy because it ignores a lot of real challenges and pain autistic people have gone through and is fairly close to the (frankly patronizing IMO) "autism/ADHD is a superpower" stuff. It doesn't feel like a superpower when you're suffering because of it.
Sorry for the ramble, it's a bit of a difficult and nuanced topic.
Really awesome response, thanks for sharing a different opinion on all the points people have been bringing up in this thread.
Welcome! I've saved the album to listen to later but took a very quick listen and enjoy what I hear so far. Love your vocal tone!
That's... That's not what this is? I can't figure out any other way it can be interpreted.
Yes, but then you have to be prepared to be verbally abused, honked at, hated, or even just plain hit by a car because drivers don't understand this.
I keep trying, and around the younger people my age it's mostly agreement, but when it comes to people even just slightly older they just "like driving" and hate cyclists and think public transit sucks. They don't understand that the reason for their dislike is due to the poor biking and transit infrastructure and car-centric roads and cities.
It could be fine in certain contexts - for example medical contexts - but I think an important distinction that made it stand out in your comment was that you used female for women but didn't use the equivalent "male" for men 😊
I think it's more a reference to pausing the doom scrolling which is maybe a habit to avoid the boredom or discomfort of the current situation, and trying to focus on enjoying that. Enjoying your time eating lunch or dinner, and focusing on that, instead of scrolling or watching a video always. Enjoying a walk without a podcast or music. Enjoying the comfort of being safe and warm in bed instead of distracting from thoughts. Things like that. It's a skill you build and as you build it you will be more open to getting dopamine from sources other than doomscrolling. Other benefits include being able to manage uncomfortable thoughts and feelings better and also have the boredom and discomfort drive you to do other things. Of course this works best when paired with things like DBT skills to help with thoughts and emotions.
It's specifically using compound words of the left + top words together, so I think that's already filtered out save for typos, very specific stains, and eccentric breakfast option
Oh wow thanks for the guidebook! I'll try to remember that. And the other suggestions I've recieved.
Not sure how I'll eat all of it 😅
Nope, just a Canadian who didn't grow up going to many fast food chains before taco bell apparently closed all its doors in the surrounding area!
I just started interning and it's my first office job (Yay!) but most of the clothes I feel comfortable wearing are not really office attire. Especially shoes. I have no "appropriate" shoes because shoes have always been a particular source of sensory issues so I wear the same black pair of mesh trainers. I have to commute in a big city so I end up walking a decent amount, and shoes that are tight and/or heavy really mess with my focus.
Do you guys have any advice on how to find comfortable shoes that are at least a bit more office appropriate? Maybe solid clean white sneakers? For reference I'm female.
My brother brought back some plants that the garden center gave him for free since it was end of season and they were very weak and almost dying.
My dad's not a huge gardener at all but he watched some videos and set up a little station in the yard to plant them and water them. They're looking amazing so far and other than the plant the rabbits decided to dig up and steal (roots and all) they're all much healthier! He says he's gotten about three tomatoes so far and he loves it.
Just posting to share and maybe get some tips on how to grow them easily (since he's busy) and when to know when they're ripe. There are a few different varieties but we're not sure which ones are which and how to tell when they're good to eat! When to fertilize, how to protect when weather gets cold, when to do so, etc.
Here are today's sudoku puzzles!
What difficulty did you complete? How much time did it take you? Are you stuck on a difficulty, or did you learn any new techniques?
Discuss!
Are you experienced in sudoku and/or have experience moderating a subreddit, community, or similar? This is my first time opening and moderating a community and I would love some help growing this place, keeping it active, and moderating content if necessary.
If you're interested in becoming a moderator, just leave me a comment down below if you have any experience (and maybe a bit about yourself, or not, I don't really care much).
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I'm unable to see the lists of posts I've made on desktop, mobile, and any of the mobile clients I've used. This goes for my accounts on both sh.itjust.works and Lemmy.world. I like seeing how my posts are doing or going back to read comments on there even if they've been marked as read. Could it be that it's not showing my posts because they've been marked as read and I've got settings to hide read posts? If so, seeing my own posts should be exempt from this setting.
UPDATE: if I show read posts, I can see my posts. This is definitely something that should be fixed; show read posts settings should only apply on my feeds, not when I'm looking through a user's or my own post history
TL;DR at the bottom.
I (24f) am going through the legal elements of a divorce but have been separated for a few months now. I loved my ex husband, but before marrying I made it clear I didn't want kids and didn't want him to wait or hope for me to change my mind. He agreed and told me he would be happy with me even if I never wanted kids.
Just under a year ago he sat me down and told me he had been realizing more and more that he changed his mind and thinks he does want kids. I asked how long this had been happening, he said about a year. I already knew where this was headed, but thought I owed it to us to at least try. Months of therapy and thinking and talking and waiting for him to come to the same conclusion I had brought up to him and accepted pretty early on and we finally decided mutually that we would have to divorce. I didn't want him to stay with me and risk having any resentment towards me and feel unfulfilled, and I dont want kids. I don't know if I'll want them in the future, I don't think I will, but he wanted them ASAP so it was irrelevant anyways.
At least the separation/divorce has been amicable, but it was (and sometimes still is) incredible difficult emotionally. I'm grateful that his family didn't guilt me when they learned of the reason for the divorce, though the reason he gave for me being childfree was medical reasons which is only kind of true. Still, at least I didn't get any flak for it from anybody.
The guy I'm talking to now is vehemently childfree and it's great being able to freely make faces about or feel annoyed by children, not want to go to baby showers or baby birthday parties, and all other things that I used to feel alone in with my ex husband (and made me wonder for a while if he was truly childfree like me). Not to say you have to dislike children to be childfree, but I would often get a weird look about my attitude and discomfort around children.
I was never active on the subreddit but I'm making more of an effort to be active in the communities on Lemmy, so I guess hi everyone! How are you? Anybody here with a similar story?
TL;DR My husband changed his mind and I didn't so now I'm a 24 year old divorcée introducing myself and my story being childfree :)
Saw this on my porch one morning and thought it was pretty cool. Didn't even know any ants around here ate dead bugs!