Hanna @ choihanna @lemmy.zip

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Hmmm I'm not sure all straight men had a passing by men 🤣

Uhhh I don't know any of that, I'm Korean and we don't have anything of that. Being trans is a separate thing from women, you're technically not a man but not a woman either. Also you can't be a biological woman, that's not how it works 🤣 if you have XY chromosomes you are a male it doesn't matter if you remove your genitals.

Sexist? I'm just attracted to what I'm attracted to. I can't change that everyone has a type

Honestly I might give up on it, it's not something that you really need to live 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't have these kinds of problems when I don't disclose. And I'm not saying that I've dated anyone without disclosing but every male friend I had did end up trying to date me (my friends don't know about it). I notice the difference in behavior, when they don't know what I am they act as if I was the last glass of water in the desert.

Okay the issue here is, I've done this before and it didn't work. And right now I'm not on a stage where I want to expose my transness to my social circle, what's most likely to happen if I tell a guy who is into me is that he will be shocked and tell a lot of people. Also there's barely any men interested in my hobbies unless they're gay

Why match then? Lol

I've been on puberty blockers for 9 years and hormones for 7 years. Also I don't identify as a woman, I'm Asian I know Americans and Europeans have a different view but at least in my country identifying as a woman is not a thing?

Uhhh yes, but maybe I'm confused about why they don't give signals of not being a good fit untill they stop talking out of nowhere. Maybe it's my personality I don't know

Honestly? No, my hobbies are gardening, reading and writing, and most guys are into videogames and gym. Like all of them it just feels so stupid how a lot of them like those two things. But at the same time I might not see a man with my same hobbies as masculine, which is a huge turn off for me.

I mean the fact that I'm passing doesn't mean I'm not still a male. If they're okay with my appearance why are they turned off by me stating a truth

But sexuality is not just a label, and it sounds like internalized homophobia. If you're attracted to a male of any kind you're at least bisexual and there's nothing wrong with it.

Something I've started to notice after paying more attention to their reactions is that they lose interest very quickly if I ask them if they're bisexual. It's an opinion it's fine if they disagree with me but why leave just because I think they're bi 😐

Thanks 🫶🏻 something that I noticed that makes them leave a lot is when I ask if they're bisexual. Because in my mind if they're willing to have a relationship with a trans woman then they must be bisexual? It's just an opinion I don't understand why lose interest just because of that

Uhh no actually I have very bad grammar because I'm not a native speaker, and I'm the opposite of autistic I'm very talkative and social 😅

Thanks for the honesty, yes I know it and it's understandable. What I don't understand is why stay several dates?

I don't know, it does seem dumb but that's what they do

I haven't met any man yet who told me he got a lot of matches from older married women, maybe I need more male friends but I haven't heard much of it 😅

Men do the same, actually even worse because I've met a few who are already married 😭

What does take charge mean? I date older men, I'm sorry but if a 40 year old man wants to be taken care of by someone half their age... Sorry but that's not the kind of man I'm looking for