the way this isn't even in my top 50 issues with Discord. i finally quit using it this July because it isn't enjoyable and I feel the life has been sucked out of it. there are much better alternatives popping up now including Matrix and Revolt which are my new go-to chat apps
The main problem is what the people you actually want to talk to are using. I still have to keep Facebook cucking Messanger installed to talk to one friend group.