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Edit - Hexbear announced plans to deferedate from us.
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After recent events, it feels to me that sentiment has shifted and more people are asking for defederation of hexbear than previously
I've been doing my best to try and mend bridges and keep us connected, as it's my hope that we can maintain trans solidarity and work with them, despite the friction, however, ultimately, I feel that this is an issue for the blahaj lemmy community to decide, not the admins alone
So here's what we're going to do
We're going to leave things as they are for a week. That will give time for things to calm down whilst we see if we can work together. After a week, I'll put up a vote and get a feel for where the community is at in regards to our continued federation with hexbear. That poll will run for a week. If there is a strong will to defederate (a clear majority), then that's what we will do
I don't think it's Hexbear itself that's the issue, I think it's just a few rotten apples that have found their way there causing problems. I was there for a couple weeks and I generally liked it but then it started getting weird and I made a post that apparently someone didn't like and they started harrassing me even after I left and came here.
Like I said though, I think it's just a handful of rotten apples and trolls who have nothing better to do
I have come to the conclusion that there are fundamental incompatibilities with how they deal with conflict. Basically, we tend to be huggers and they tend to be fighters. That’s all well and good but constantly getting dragged into fights over stuff that I really don’t care about is really harshing my mellow.