Hey, me too! It seems like none of the normal folks really understand what I'm trying to say, but I'm much better at fitting in with societal norms than most of my friends.
I relate to this too, and I think I've figured out why. I've spent most of my life cultivating a normal impersonation. This has made me sensitive to what is not normal, and even judgemental of it. The problem is you can only keep up a normal-impersonation for so long, and it can be exhausting.
I developed a sort of "chameleon" skill. I start with pleasantries, let the person talk for a bit, get an idea of what THIS person is like, and then I just act like whatever they want me to be.
It helped me do alright for myself in sales, but it REALLY IS exhausting.