The use of content warnings on !asklemmy

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TL;DR

Use spoilers for NSFW content that is "within reason" and doesn't break Rule 1 like this :

> \::: spoiler My NSFW warning > > My NSFW comment or post content > > :::

This will look like (click the triangle) :

My NSFW warning

My NSFW comment or post content

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The longer version

The community rules which seem to need to be balanced by the mods most are:

1. Be nice & have fun, and
2. NSFW is okay, within reason.

The lemmy.world site rules also state:

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We are not a free speech zone. This CoC lays out expected standards of conduct and behavior. You cannot say or post anything that violates these rules or principles and remain a member of our community. You must follow this CoC. If you are looking for something else, please do. It is not here.

The Moderators are not morality or thought police. Moderators are guided by this Code of Conduct. Post what you want, if what you post follows these rules, principles and the goals outlined above. Not every member of the community will appreciate controversial or explicit posts so use Content Warnings very liberally. We use Content Warnings so community members themselves can decide whether they want to see or engage with a post that may be controversial or explicit.

Bullies, trolls and disruptors are not welcome. We will moderate accordingly.

This is a voluntary community. You chose to be here. When you choose to join, you have implied that you agree with this Code of Conduct and will follow it.

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Moderators seek to apply these, sometimes conflicting, rules. In doing so we take the balance of probabilities approach. The majority of comments which have been removed to date have been a clear breach of community Rule 1, however sometimes balancing the requirement to be accepting of NSFW content and the requirement for participants to be nice can be difficult. To make this easier, posters and commentors are encouraged to use the spoiler functionality in markdown to create a content warning on asklemmy. Posts that use a spoiler are less likely to be removed when considering whether they are "within reason" NSFW.

To create a spoiler, use three colons ":" followed by the word "spoiler" and then the warning text to create a content warning. Type your comment(s) on the lines below and then three colons at the end to end the spoiler.

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> \::: spoiler My NSFW warning > > My NSFW omment or post content > > :::

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This will look like (click the triangle) :

My NSFW warning

My NSFW comment or post content

When I want a little sweet treat I make smoothies.

My base is always frozen banana + milk + oats then do one of these:

Cinnamon + vanilla

Pumpkin + pumpkin spice+ brown sugar

Strawberries/blue berries

Cost like under a dollar to make a good cup and they are pretty filling.

I was thinking about how I missed having an indoor thermometer that measures humidity. It's such a small specific thing, one I'd never think of getting unless pushed to it (which I was by one particularly dry winter). But I like having one now.

What are your small, "random" or "junk drawer" type of gadgets that you actually use or like having around?

I need to settle an argument I started. My argument: olives are gross.

I will die on this hill.

I work with a person that went presented with a problem, works through it and arrives at the wrong solution. When I have them show me the steps they took, it seems like they interpret things incorrectly. This isn't a language barrier, and it's not like they aren't reading what someone wrote.

For example, they are working on a product, and needed to wait until the intended recipients of the product were notified by an email that they were going to get it. the person that sent the email to the recipients then forwarded that notification email to this person and said "go ahead and send this to them."

Most people would understand that they are being asked to send the product out. It's a regular process for them.

So he resent the email. He also sent the product, but I'm having a hard time understanding why he thought he was supposed to re-send the email.

I've tried breaking tasks down into smaller steps, writing out the tasks, post-mortem discussion when something doesn't go as planned. What other training or management tasks can I take? Or have I arrived at the "herding kittens" meme?

Just curious since I think it is about to get a whole lot harder to search using google. hopefully this will signal the end of their monopoly.

They're sort of a hybrid between a strip mall and a business park. I see them in some areas. Two stories always, and a very warehousy design.

For some reason I've just never liked Spider-Man. He comes off as a whiney, ignorant child that never seems to grow up or mature despite everything he goes through. I love a good coming of age story, but he just never seems to become an adult.

I hear some cities call the larger area as metro (Vancouver) and other cities call it greater (Toronto). Is there a functional difference? Generally speaking, is one more urbanized than the other?

I feel when Bucha happened in Ukraine still a lot of people were shocked and outraged. But somehow this extreame achievement of the human race to formulate human rights and at least try to defend them is withering away.

• Genocide in Gaza, meh.
• Genocide in Nagorno-Karabakh whatever.
• Genocide in some African country again? They always have some genocide going on there
• Genocide in Xinjang? Look they are dancing in the propaganda videos, how bad can it be?
• UK sending refugies from all over the world to Rwanda? They categorized it as a save country so what's the Problem?
• Guantanamo is still open? We haven't heard much about it for years, probably everything is ok there

I could go on and on. So is it just the times now that nobody wants WWIII so we are just looking the other way? Even worse, if you want to protest for human rights, you get into trouble, not just in dictatorship countries, but in Germany, US, etc.

and maybe pocketing a few just for fun

I've never seen a green mosquito before...

It's strange but listening again to music from about 20 years ago, during a time when I was mostly sad and depressed, and where the musical choices reflected that, gives me a weird sense of nostalgia and longing for that time.

I know it's not unusual for music to do that, that's just run of the mill, it's just odd that, it has me longing for a time and associated mood that, on the whole, I kind of didn't really enjoy very much. The angsty tracks were what I listened to because I was so bummed out and dissatisfied.

I saw another thread talking about dreams, I've had less than a handful of dreams throughout my life.

Do you dream? Every night?

When growing up my parents taught me to stand up to bullies. (We're talking about verbal abuse and manipulation, not physical bullying.) Following that advice as a kid led to mixed results yet it's stuck with me into my adult years.

These days though, using this advice only seems to backfire. When I give them what they've given me, the bullies just get more angry and use that to justify their continued bullying. They see themselves as the victim.

Any suggestions that would be more helpful?

I've been using one of the Pandora services, but I've been getting a little annoyed with the stations (which I presume I would get the same annoyance from other services, too). So I'd like to be able to create a station and add songs that I own and that wouldn't normally be in that station. (And I know you can add artists to the stations, but some artists only have a few songs I like, and I surely don't want the station inundated with similar artists of the music I don't like. Shudder the thought, 😬 ).

Hey all.. I don't even know if this is the right community. But figured I'd ask here and worst case no one gives a response.

Anyway, two of my comments were deleted and I was banned from a community:

>Banned

>@StaySquared from the community Lefty Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com reason: reactionary

The post was about how there's no such thing was unskilled work. I commented that, "sex work" is an unskilled job. And my second comment was that it was the first thing that came to mind, that a clown creating animal-shaped balloons are more skilled than a sex worker.

I don't understand how this is reactionary? Or how it's defined in this community but apparently it's bad enough to get banned for it. I wish the mod(s) would give a clear explanation, otherwise I'm going to continue breaking rules aimlessly (without realizing I'm breaking the rules).

Definition of reactionary: opposing political or social liberalization or reform.

I'm not opposing sex work. I'm defining sex work as an unskilled talent/job. If a man or woman wants to be a sex worker, good for them. I'm not offended or negatively impacted by sex workers.

So I guess the question is, how do I contact the mods or a mod of that community so they may get my defense before outright perma-banning me from the community?

There's probably a different word for it, but linkhole like rabbithole.

You went to this one site, and it mentioned some other site, and they kept your interest and kept linking on to others and you've surfaced just long enough to share here.

If a mobile (cell, handy) phone is part of your life, do your dreams include reference to it?

The other night I dreamed that I left mine in someone's car. That struck me as odd because it may have been the first time one of my dreams included such a reference - even though I'm constantly on my phone during waking hours.

I’ve seen this too much in the media and other places, and I am kinda sick of seeing people get unfairly criticized or sidelined.

For example, I sometimes do want to vote for Trump. Not because I like the man. Not because I find him as a credible leader, in fact, he's a murderer in my eyes by negligence because of his handling of the 2020 COVID Pandemic.

But I want to vote for him because of all of the collective amount of stupidity I see society spiraling into and almost at a stunning level of complacency. We complain more than we do. We nitpick and cherry pick anything from anyone that isn't warranted and make a big deal of it like someone's post on social media.

We continue feeding into the things we cry about being bad. Just so much fucking stupidity at competing levels that challenges the previous record.

And I want to vote for someone who is as destructive as Trump, as a means of just punishment because of this. It's like, society doesn't learn as much as it should, so fuck you, have another 4 years of this asshole and this next set will most likely be the kind where we'll see irreversible damage.

All because of society's obliviousness and idiocy.

Title says it all, I hope.

I comment a lot on stories having to do with state governments and legislation or regions of the country. It got me wondering how many people I'm accidentally disparaging when I don't mean everyone in said state or region is terrible. So… Please be as specific or obtuse as your privacy filter requires. I'll start:

I'm in the Bay Area, specifically Oakland. Despite Bay Area hate from some posters, I think it's great. How about you?

Or to load a whole bunch at once so you can Ctrl+F? I used to use RES on the other site to do that.

This is a serious question, mostly addressed to the adult women among us but also to anyone else who has a stake in the matter.

What did your father do for you/not do for you, that you needed?

Context: I have recently become a father to a daughter, with a mother whose father was not around when she was growing up. I won't bore you all with the details but our daughter is here now and I am realising that I'm the only one in our little family who has really had a father before. But I have never been a girl. And I know that as a boy, my relationships with my mother and father were massively influential and powerful but at the same time radically different to each other. People say that daughters and fathers have a unique relationship too.

Question: What was your father to you? What matters the most when it comes to a father making his daughter loved, safe, confident and free? To live a good life as an adult?

I'd like this to be a mature, personal and real discussion about daughters and fathers, rather than a political thing, so I humbly ask to please speak from the heart and not the head on this one :)

Thank you

P.S Apologies if this question is badly written or conceived; I haven't been getting enough sleep! It is what it is!

So far I've checked several "getting started"'s and FAQ's and Google and everyone just tells me that it's possible but nobody tells me fucking WHERE. So obviously I'm in need of help. Preferably with a diagram or colourful pictures.

Edit: Okay, so old.lemmy.world doesn't seem to have been updated to allow instance blocking. Did it on the vanilla UI, thanks for everyone who rubbed my face into it! Appreciate the help. <3

I had this discussion with a friend, and we really couldn't reach a consensus.

My friend thinks Lemmy (and other Reddit-like platforms) is social media because you're interacting with other people, liking/disliking submissions, and all the content is user-generated.

I think it isn't because you're not following individual people, just communities/topics. Though I concede there are some aspects of social media present, I feel that overall it's not because my view of social media is that you're primarily following individuals.

In my view, these link aggregator + comment platforms are more like an evolution of forums which both my friend and I agreed don't meet the criteria to be considered social media (though they maintain that Reddit-like platforms are social media while I do not).

So I'm asking Lemmy now to weigh in to help settle this friendly debate.

Edit: Thanks everyone! From the comments, it sounds like my friend and I are both right and both wrong. lol. Feel free to keep chiming in, but I have to go do the 9-5 thing that pays my mortgage and cloud hosting bills.

My dream is to own my own business (just kidding--own several businesses), but I'm currently experiencing financial hardship. After frantically looking for work for over a year with a network that let me down, I finally managed to find part-time work at a local nonprofit.

But I want to keep the foot on the gas (quite literally). Looking for a good business podcast I can listen to on my drive. I've listen to some in the past, but the quality of them has gone down. Oftentimes the guests are showboating, with like 30 seconds of helpful nuggets in the middle. Or I'll roll my eyes when I see the guest is some Dr. Oz-like green juice prophet.

Yes, I realize podcasts need to make money. I fully accept that if a podcast is free, ads are unavoidable. I simply skip past them.

Previous podcasts that have fallen out of favor with me: University of Adversity, School of Greatness, Achieving your Goals with Hal Elrod, Mel Robbins, Entrepreneurs on Fire, and How I Built It (where each episode just sounded like a 50-minute commercial for WordPress).

Looking for ones that focus on becoming rich, but also ones that talk about how to bolster a network and overcome hardship. Somewhere along there.

Any ideas?

We only know about when humans mastered fire or started using metal. But we know the exact date when the first powered flight took place. What are some really early "first ____" we know the date of for sure?

Breakfast cereal served the standard way, in a bowl with cold milk poured on and eaten with a spoon. Does this count as a soup, why or why not? Defend your answer with logic (or emotion, whatever I'm not your dad)

Posted with my thinkpad running Arch btw.

First let me be clear: I'm not a crazy conspiracy person (...on this) I just don't rely on a municipal well. As far as I know adding fluoride to the private well at my houses is not a thing, good or bad. I did drink municipal water for two years when I lived on campus in college.

That said, is fluoride a benefit to adults or just children?

When I was a kid I got fluoride treatments at the dentist, but then aged out. I've never had a cavity in forty years, but I'd like to keep it that way. Should I still be doing it?

Also no, I'm not using the internet as a substitute for a dentist, just my next dental appointment is in four months. TIA

Basically the title I installed a game, played some, got bored and wanna delete it but then remembered that I used to have a tab long time ago and we'd mess with it by installing a ton of games , So at a point it got too hangy that we deleted every game but it still wouldn't work as good so we had to factory reset the thing which was very easy as we didn't use it for anything and didn't have to back up anything . That was a long time ago and I think the tab was running android 4 or 6 or 5 or somethin anyway I looked some online and the opinions are mixed I now run android 9 ( which I use barely ) and 11 (which I daily drive) . so if a game or app has no file or anything (at least I can't find anything ) is deleting it after wiping data return the phone to the phone to the condition it was before installing it ? If so why did the tab behave that way ? I also remember an old huwai phone doing the same .

Sorry for the long read, just wanted to explain the question and got carried on . also feel free to let me know if this doesn't belong here and just suggest another place to post it to and I will move it but don't down vote in case I can get some answers .

Is there a name for this specific concept? Where somebody invents something (to do them good) but then that thing turns around and backfires on them?

I'm reading more and more webtoon, which means that I get my comics by chapter not by volume. Is there a instance where asian comics are presented this way? I'm not against adding the chapter myself but I look for a community that's also using the chapter format.

Also I'm on The Library of the Uncommons which is nice but the search is soooo slow...