how's your week going, Beehaw
how's your week going, Beehaw
we're so back. anyways as you can tell by the other pinned post, we've been a little busy with a lot of stuff on the backend and that's probably going to continue into the foreseeable future
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My whole life ive been made to understand that i am undesirable. This might be hard to understand for someone who has choice
No one has ever looked at me I am worthless as a woman and all i want is to finally make peace with that fact
You know this might sound made up but I've never met a confident woman except for that woman from the ONS. That's what I fell for. She had been bullied so badly, at some point she just decided to start validating herself. It's so rare.
And how is any of this related to friendship? Those are arguably better any way.
imo friendship is neither better nor worse than a committed relationship I already have friends and i honestly dont need any more
What i have never had is someone who loves me romantically but the chances of that happening are pretty much zero lol 🧠🪱
I don't mean to invalidate your feelings but I feel people often want the things they can't have, and when it comes to love that applies to everyone. I think romantic relationships are put too much on a pedestal in our culture. The truth is that finding true love is a rare thing and it isn't something most of us should expect. And if you do happen to find it in your life, you don't know when. It might have already happened or it might happen when you are 80.
Christian/platonic love can be just as fulfilling or even more so because it doesn't have the carnal aspect. And that's the kind of love you give, rather than expect to receive.
You dont mean to invalidate my feelings? Yet here we are.
I dont blame you though. I assume you, as someone, who probably isnt hideous looking, think that its easy for any woman to find a partner, whether sexual or romantic.
But i want you to imagine something. Imagine you are a young girl who has just started puberty. Imagine your parents calling you fat and ugly almost everyday (which is a bit of a self burn tbf). When you like someone, it is met with ridicule and disgust, because how couldnt it? Look at you. Your feelings are the punchline. Repeat that ad nauseum, until youre in your 20s and 30s. People dont laugh at you anymore, but it still hurts.
Imagine wondering what is so fundamentally wrong with you, as a person, that you cant even experience the things that "arent even that important" to others.
You probably cant, and thats a good thing
Don't you think you're making a lot of assumptions about me? Don't you see any value in the things I've said?
Not really
E: Youre not the first to tell me that. And i apologise for assuming.