If you end up doing a big wedding I would recommend telling as many of the vendors and suppliers that it's for a birthday party instead. It'll still be expensive but should be more manageable
You would be surprised. Family friends of ours are Greek and rich, and they do not do anything small. I hate to perpetuate stereotypes but if you've seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding, it's like that with them but for everything. Birthdays, the christian holidays, just a summer BBQ, all huge. The bride and groom on top yeah that'll tip the baker off but that's not hard to quickly put on yourself.