Like, I get being upset to some degree. I don't fret about downvotes, but I do about reduces, since I want the content I bothered to post to at least be seen. But at the same time, that's part of the risk of making subjective or controversial content (and unfortunately, to some people all NSFW content is controversial).
I don't understand what you're losing, tbh. I literally don't understand the drama.
Why would you want to downvote on a discussion forum? If it's trolling, then report it and a mod can delete it. If you disagree, then reply and explain. Isn't that why we're here... To talk about and share content and ideas?
Not always worth the time to reply and explain. A downvote says "This isn't content worth engaging with." If some pro-genocide twat comes in and says "Aktually you have to understand that the genociders are in a very tough position...", it may not be trolling or against the community rules, but it sure as shit isn't worth being part of the discussion.
Exactly this, the idea that every viewpoint deserves to be respected and given an equal share of attention is false. Racists, homophobes, ect don't deserve to be given a platform to spread their views and down votes are one of the more effective tools a community has to limit those kinds of content.
I suppose it depends on how well mods respond to sea lioning.
The problem with downvotes is that it encourages echo chambers, hiding any views that don't conform to the consensus view. The Internet is prone to confirmation bias and downvotes exacerbate the problem.
Unpopular views will still get "ratio-ed" without downvotes.
I'm on Beehaw, which doesn't allow downvotes. If you downvote any of my comments on Beehaw I'll literally never know unless I log in from another instance. Beehaw also won't federate your downvotes to other instances, either, so only other users on the same instance will see them.
It's a pretty great system, imho. Downvotes haven't been useful since Digg collapsed and Rediquette went out the window.
Downvotes are disabled on Beehaw, and I believe that downvotes from other instances don't federate - i.e. they're only visible on the instance the user downvoted from. If you're on a massive instance and you view a popular community you'll still get "useful" numbers of downvotes but otherwise it'll mostly be upvotes.
I think Lemmy does need a more nuanced downvote system (e.g. you need to select a reason or there's a quota or something), but I'm not sure how it'd work with the wider fediverse.
Edit: I should have scrolled more, two people had already written this comment).