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She would have let him say the punchline if she was interested. She shut him down because she was clearly not interested.
nah, my neurodivergent self would treat that as a genuine question and answer the same way despite my feelings for the other person
Yeah but if you let something like that stop you from saying the punchline you probably shouldn’t be dating neurodivergent people
Out of curiosity wouldn't the "nuerodivergent" part just be not interested in why he was asking the question then? Not educated on how that really works. The term seems to imply to me the brain is dividing thoughts into factions, and the social "solenoid" that would get triggered and route to joke faction "by being interested" is getting bypassed so it just went straight to literal answer. Maybe section would be a better term than faction. I should add nuerodivergence to my list of need to look into to further understand.
That's not what "neurodivergent" means at all. 😅
Basically, neurodiversity is a psychology worldview in which diversity is recognized as a strength. People who are different, like folks with autism, ADHD and such, are not classified as having a "disorder", but rather different strengths and weaknesses.
And then "neurodivergent" is basically just what people call it when someone is autistic or has ADHD or something along those lines.My interpretation is that in this case, the person you're responding to probably has autistic traits, which make them less attentive of social cues, or also less comprehending (which may also just mean they need to concentrate to recognize the communication patterns of non-autistics).
And the social cues here would be that the guy telling the joke probably smiled and had a certain tone in their voice. Without recognizing that, it will just sound like a genuine question.
Other autistic traits may also apply, for example autistics tend to have good memory, so that's likely part of the reason why they even know the marsupial thing to begin with.I'm clearly missing something because your last 2 paragraphs seem to state the same thing I said here "The term seems to imply to me the brain is dividing thoughts into factions, and the social "solenoid" that would get triggered and route to joke faction "by being interested" is getting bypassed so it just went straight to literal answer. Maybe section would be a better term than faction. I should add nuerodivergence to my list of need to look into to further understand."
Where you say social cue, that is the trigger for the solenoid in my blabber. The "without recognizing" is the "bypassing and going straight" to the literal answer or "answering as a genuine question." As you put it. Maybe I should have said relay instead of solenoid, or just avoided mechanical parts all together 😅
Edit: I tend to keep the view that everyone is on 1 spectrum, and it is not linear but at minimal 2 dimensional, 3 more likely. So I often ignore trying to label thoughts as being autistic or such, as like you said, they could mean a plethora of different things. My partner is autistic/ADHD, but most people would have a hard time telling from standard encounters. They just think she is quiet/reserved until they get into situations that would require more than just small conversations.
Oh well, sucks to be you I guess. Try to develop a resistance to shitty men.
what?
Just nod smile and move along, don't upset crazy people
Eh, she might have genuinely not realized that he's attempting a joke. You do need to bring across in your voice+expression that you're being humorous, otherwise it sounds like a normal question, and if they're on a party or such, that can be difficult.
Not to mention that if she's a biology student, the info that koalas are marsupials probably makes it quicker to her head than the realization that he's joking.