Reminder that just because you don’t have children, doesn’t mean you have to achieve a certain level of career or academia. You’re still valid. I’m still valid…
I can't complain too much, because I usually end each month with a couple hundred in pocket money, but one of the primary reasons I don't have kids is cause there's no way in hell I'm going to afford it. The $200ish a month that I waste on weed and video games are not going to afford diapers and daycare.
Yeah, it’s not really that much, but it’s precisely for that reason that I know after paying for my own necessities, I can’t afford mini-mes. And let’s not even get started on the emotional baggage I picked up in childhood that keeps me convinced to this day it’s best to just not perpetuate a negative cycle my family seems stuck in.
In fact I strive to do as little as possible. I only work to pay the bills. If I could luck upon a comfortable enough nest egg I would quit working immediately and just play games the rest of my life (video & board, solo and with friends/family).
Hell, I may end up contributing more to society that way since I enjoy dabbling in video game design but don't have enough time to actually work towards anything I could release. If I had time, maybe I'd actually create something for a wider audience rather than whatever minor contribution I have at work.
I don't think "valid" is a proper word for someone's life. You don't have to be validated by anyone, you don't own anyone anything. Do what you yourself see fit for this one-time adventure.
I always like to remind people that their ancestors survived as fishermen and farmers and peasants, you aren't a failure if you don't become the president or the greatest person in your field or whatever.
And if you do want children and are fulfilled living a life dedicated to making and raising them, you're also still valid.
In fact, that would be an accomplishment, while simply existing isn't. But this planet got an overpopulation problem, so if all you wanna do is continue simply and unimportantly existing while also not procreating, I'd say, go ahead.