I am having issues letting go of my family. My dad, he's awesome. Bought me a bunch of makeup and nails polish and is just generally wonderful.
My mom and one of my brothers at least are giant thundercunts. My brother cut me out of my nephew's life cuz 8 "is too young to be thinking of gender identity," even though they have been saying "it's a boy" since the ultrasound. My mom is standing up for my brothers parental rights, yet won't even say my brother is being a dickheaded bigot. "Cuz I'm 37 and old enough to fight my own battles"
I want my mom and my brothers. I'm really sad and hurt. I have told them as such. They do not care. How do I cut them out and let them go. It's really hard.
I'm just torturing myself every day, trying to win them over. It hurts that they don't care. I want them in my life, but not if they are going to be filled with so much hate.
My brother has been there more than my parents have. Whenever Mom and dad exchanged custody, he was there.
And I guess I have always had this idealized vision of my mom.its been two months, but I'm still having problems flipping that switch, allowing myself to let them go. 37 years is a long time, ya know?
Treat it like a very bad breakup or an abusive relationship.
To simply cut them out, you need to accept the fact they are bigoted and hateful. They do not care unless you go back to whoever you once were. Remind yourself of this as you go through your phone and delete their contact information, email, etc. Then put their numbers, emails, and even chat clients like discord, matrix, or whatever, and even other social media platforms you are on to keep in contact with them and block them.
Remove them in everyway possible, do not give them any rhyme or reason for it. They know what they did.
Is it going to hurt? Yes it is going to hurt, extremely. But, use this time to be with friends and any family like you're dad, who do care. Talk about it with them to let them know you've done this. Explain your reasoning for cutting these specific family members out of your life. They won't get rid of this pain, but can help alleviate some of it by comforting you.