you gotta own it
you gotta own it
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Hey, some looks you gotta build yourself up to. I'm a dude with long hair, when I first let it grow long enough to tie back, it felt really weird being in public with a ponytail/ bun. I didn't feel like "the guy with the ponytail" yet.
A few more trips to the coffee shop, and hopefully this guy will just be "the guy in the cowboy hat" 👍🏽
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When I first grew my hair out as a young teen, I didn't put it up at all until I cut it short again. The next time I tried growing it out it became my thing to always have it up
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Yup, I never tied my hair back growing up. Now that on my last hurrah with it as it's falling out, I tend to tie it back more often than not when I'm working.
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Oh shit, I thought it was just me. I was so subconscious about it, I actually tie it up all the time. Then one day I started to get more confident and just let it down all the time.
One time(while wearing a mask) someone called me ma'am. Another time a Indian man in Brisbane was being a dick and told me women can't be in the male bathroom.
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I also used to have long hair and would accidentally get called ma'am back in the day. I noticed the person who said it is usually wayyy more mortified than you are. Partly because they misgendered you, but mostly because they totally just checked out your ass too. After realizing that, it never bothered me again.
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Growing my hair out forever ago is how I learned (started, anyway) I have only a faint attachment to the male identity. I got called "ma'am" with surprising regularity and it never bothered me to be misgendered. My hair's still long, but I'm fat and bearded so waitstaff are a lot more confident from all angles. People were a lot more casually homophobic back then too, but girls loved to play with it so the joke's on them.
I've always kept it brushed and loose unless I'm working and need it out of the way. (Or it's windy. Damned wind.)
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Danm wind. Every time I ride a motorcycle, tangled level 100.
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Very much so. Wore a bun for years until I was like oh this doesn't look like complete shit.
I'd want someone to say if it did though lol
My dad was cowboy hat guy. It helps if you get a porn stache going as well. Adds to the mystique.
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Same when I first started wearing glasses it takes some getting used to.
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Ive always been the "photographer friend" of my friend group. But up until recently it was either just on my phone or my little point and shoot (Olympus Infinity II).
But i really prefer to shoot on my SLR (Canon AE-1) so I've started carrying that around with me. Sometimes I still think about how I'm the "weirdo with a camera" but to be honest with you everyone loves it and it's a really great conversation starter. I've gotten pretty confident now but every once and a while it gets me again.
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I went on a trip a couple months ago with some friends, one of which had recently gotten into photography. He brought a camera along (no idea what kind, it used film 🤷🏾♂️) and that little piece of plastic made the trip so much more enjoyable, through it he became our "in" for several fun interactions.
Some people will feel otherwise, but until you give me a reason to add "weirdo" myself, people with cameras are just people with cameras, haha.
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