I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are
I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are
Before transitioning, I didn't receive short pat hugs or shake hands; I got deep, long hugs.
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Am I only the only one who thinks comes off like "men arent like women, and therefore broken"?
Not having to spend an hour discussing my feelings is actually one of the things I like about my friendships. I don't want long deep hugs, they make me uncomfortable. And I definitely don't want someone opening up to me about their life struggles. That's not the kind of friendship I like or want.
I guess that makes me broken!
And it's all perfectly fine to not want that.
The issue is there is a heavy expectation for all men to be like that. Many of us, me included, are not at all, and are often ridiculed for it.
I mean it does because those things only make you uncomfortable because you've been conditioned your entire life to feel that way just because you're a man.
Those things are basic human companionship.
So not only am I somehow fundamentallly broken, I've also been duped by society and I'm too stupid to even realize it?
You couldn't be any more insulting if you tried.
Not quite. To me, it’s more like “men don’t even have the option of building relationships like women do, and that’s not healthy. Society is broken.”
But they didn't say that. They flat out said "men are broken".
You seem to have stopped reading once you got through the headline and missed the entire article written afterwards.
Surely you have something more constructive to say than a sneering quip?
100% mate.
All my best friendships have been 99% ripping into each other and telling funny stories. Like I don't tell shitty stories about work because I lived it once and I don't want to live it again. No one else does either. Unless it's to vent about someone because I'm angry. But I do tell funny stories about work.
Having said that even in the most masculine environments when anyone has had an issue or been pushed too fair the guys always rally and pick them back up.
Day to day shit is your own problem. The once in a month or few months is our problem and I'm here for you.
You boss was mean to you. You want to bounce other careers around or see if I can find someone to hire you? No, well grow up everyone's boss is shit. Either leave or deal with it.
Your misses just cheated on you. Right come on I'll get the guys and we'll go to the pub, she's a cunt you're better off without her.
Also hand shakes are fucking great. I usually go for a shake and a quick hug. But the handshake is better.
Then we'll all be happier if you dump your emotions on someone else.
I find complaining to be toxic. Which is why this thread sucks so much. We're all just whining about each other.
@Rodeo interestingly, I'm learning a lot from this interaction. Like about how men normalize day to day misery and disconnection. So I'm very glad that this thread exists; thank you for being honest.
I find it toxic when people go on and on about minor problems that are in no way relevant to the people in the conversation and there is no way they can help.
All it is doing is bringing unneeded negativity into an environment. That's toxic.
You want help? Yine I can help how? You want to ruin my free time when I'm trying to de-stress by going on about people and things that have nothing to do with me and I can't help? Go away.