Parents with genuinely good looking sons but mostly daughters. How do you make sure they don't build their whole personality around looks?
Parents with genuinely good looking sons but mostly daughters. How do you make sure they don't build their whole personality around looks?
cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/823828
because it can be if people start to treat them differently when they stop looking appealing they may don't understand it at first and later maybe have a depression and no plan b
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I try to emphasize the value of hard work more than anything else. I don't say, "wow, you're so smart," I say, "wow, you worked so hard on that." I will say, "you look nice," but more often, "good job working on your hair."
Yup, this is exactly it. When I praise their appearance, it's always something my kids actively did: picked out an outfit, styled their hair, etc., or even grooming and hygiene choices.
Yep. “Wow, you picked out a cool outfit” is another way to compliment actual work and creativity rather than genetic lottery winnings.
Those are the best kinds of compliments in general, I think, whether it's a parent complimenting their child, someone flirting, a platonic compliment, or whatever else! Compliment things that are within their control and that they can feel pride over and it feels a lot more meaningful.