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I look at some children, then I look at their parents and I think to myself you poor bastards you never had a chance.
Seeing perfectly happy and innocent kids be themselves and seeing their drongo dead shit parents kills me inside.
We have tests for driver's licenses, we should have tests for people becoming parents.
Got an aunt who works in childcare, she says the EXACT same thing.
I've got mates who cause of their unresolved issues are fucking up their kids, so they decided to have another kid. Like. um... what?! how about NO guys.
I'm wary of tests.
Pretty sure I have family members who would ace the test because they intellectually know the right answers and can express themselves with authority because they are educated.
But in practice they are not good parents at all because they have shit personalities.
And then there would people who are not very literate or well educated who would stink at a test but who are great parents.
iow, what are we testing and how are we testing?
Honestly I don't know what we could test. Too many variables. I do think that some kids lose the genetic lottery and are born into shit situations. If we could prevent that, that would be great.
Test:
Tester: "Do you want kids?"
Testes: "Yes"
Tester: "Wong answer"
It really breaks my heart when I see this. I once saw a woman aggressively screech ‘shut up you cnts’ to her two toddlers crying in a supermarket. Seriously what chance do these kids have? When youth crime is committed, people often comment ‘where are the parents’. Well the parents are deadshits who don’t care and were probably doing the same thing when they were kids. We can’t expect these kids will get help from their families, but no other options for ‘parenting’ are available other than foster care. All you can do is hope that against the odds, as adults they are able to overcome the shitty birth lottery they got, and start a normal life. The ones who succeed are truly amazing.
The problem is even if they manage to live a normal life, they will be missing things most people have.
And because of that, they might find it hard to relate to the average person.
And they don't have the safety nets either.
I think to myself you poor bastards you never had a chance
thank you. We're doing our best but he is a handful. 🤣