I don't think anyone appreciates being told to calm down when they're pissed about something.
precisely.
What's the stereotype exactly?
that only wives go nuclear when being told to calm down. you'll never see a version of the meme in the OP where a woman is talking about her husband, for instance.
If I'm ever in a situation where I'm about to do something dumb or being a nuisance because I'm angry or otherwise upset I sure hope someone does that...
For context I sometimes deliberately tell my friends to calm down specifically to make them angry. I said that because it's over-the-top and this community isn't the place for serious discussion.