AITA for giving my daughter a bigger piece of food than my husband?
AITA for giving my daughter a bigger piece of food than my husband?
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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Southern-Judge-9111 on 2023-09-18 15:24:29.
So this started yesterday evening. My daughter is 6, and she is my only child.
Whenever I make dinner, I always serve her first. I just feel like that’s the correct way to do it. My husband protests against this sometimes, but I always shut him down. I just think it’s fair that the kids get served first.
Anyways, yesterday evening I had made fried chicken, and I gave my daughter the biggest piece. I usually give her the biggest piece so she can save some to take for lunch in the mornings, and also because I think she deserves to have it.
I gave my husband the second biggest piece, and when he saw the piece my daughter had he got upset. He said he didn’t wanna eat anymore. When I asked him why he said “As the man of the house, I should get served first”. I told him that the kids always need to eat first and he said that he doesn’t care and it’s stupid. He then said that a 6 year old like her doesn’t deserve the biggest piece because “what does she do for the household”. He then threw his plate on the ground and I had to clean it up.
When I went to bed that evening he said he was sleeping on the couch, and then said that I needed to fix my morals. Woke up this morning to take my daughter to school and when I tried to say good morning to him he ignored me.
I feel like he’s being a bit overdramatic but I don’t know. I just need a second opinion on this situation because I think this whole thing has just been blown out of proportion. AITA?
There's two things you should consider with this question? How much or how little does your husband contribute to the families well being (job income, taking care of kids, whatever it takes to keep things together) that he should be treated as less than your daughter.
It may not be the way you look at things, but based on his reaction, it's probably what's going on inside his head. That everything he does for you and your daughter doesn't matter.
The other thing you should consider is that as you make him feel disrespected in this way you're driving a wedge between him and your daughter, because who fault is it that he's treated like a second rate citizen in his own house? Who is soo important that his sacrifices just don't matter?
To your credit though, his temper tantrum was not a reasonable way to deal with his emotions.