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Syracuse judge refuses to perform marriage for same-sex couple: ‘It was real weird’

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Felicia Pitts Davis performed a ceremony for a heterosexual couple but bailed out on two women waiting to be married, sources say.

Syracuse judge refuses to perform marriage for same-sex couple: ‘It was real weird’

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Syracuse City Court Judge Felicia Pitts Davis refused to officiate a same-sex wedding, citing religious beliefs.

Another judge, Mary Anne Doherty, performed the ceremony.

Pitts Davis’ actions, considered discriminatory under New York judicial ethics and the Marriage Equality Act, are under review by the State Commission on Judicial Conduct

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  • That is not true. It is literally their job. Where are you getting this idea that judges aren't required to officiate weddings in New York? The article even says she's violating discrimination laws.

    • I didn't realize that was New York law.
      I guess I disagree with it and suggest it's a bad law.

      She could choose not to perform any weddings I guess.

      • Your disagreement is noted.

        The rest of us think that judges should not be able to say no to a law just because they're bigots.

        And I have to wonder if you would be saying the same thing if the judge refused to marry an interracial heterosexual couple.

        • Thank you for registering my complaint.

          I don't think a judge should be able to say no to a law for any reason.

          And I would absolutely say the same. Even for a hetrosexual homoracial couple. (Is homoracial a word?) I'd say the same if the judge didn't like that the couple wore sneakers into the court. It doesn't matter the reason. Nobody should be required to create any kind of art, they disagree with.

          Which is why the Judge should stop performing weddings at all. That may be her only legal option.

          • Yeah, well maybe she should have thought about that when she married the heterosexual couple first and then refused to do it for the queer couple, showing it was basic discrimination.

            This isn't rocket science.

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            • Performing a ceremony is absolutely a creative work. One that shouldn't be required for a state to accept a marriage to begin with. But that's a separate issue.

              If my friends thought I was a racist homophobe I doubt they would've had me officiate their wedding. That would've been weird.

          • Just wanted to let you know that your argument is about as pedantic and nebulous as it gets. Surgeons perform surgery. As in, a surgeons job is to operate on a patient. Is that art? Come on now. The judge is not putting on a fucking act, she is doing a job. Her religion should play no part in her role as a public servant. She can go eat a bag of dicks.

            • It certainly is art. Surgeons can choose not to perform any surgery they don't want to.

              • It sure is. Everything is art, all of the time. Watching TV is art. Eating a sandwich is art. Taking an extra 3 minutes on a bathroom break at work, is art. You’re defending a bigot, which is also art.

      • By the sound of it, she was the on-duty judge at city hall. It was a public service because it’s the most basic kind of legal marriage, a courthouse marriage. There is barely any ceremony or performance, and lots of people do it prior to the real ceremony because it is considered a formality.

        Why shouldn’t a public servant who is assigned that duty be required to follow through? I understand not wanting to do it if it’s a whole ordeal, but if this is the bare minimum required to formalize a marriage, should that not always be available to all people regardless of their race, sex, etc?

        • It should be available to everyone. It shouldn't even be a ceremony. Just file the paperwork. It's only a contract after all.

          If it was her assignment that day, and part of her job, signing the paperwork is all that she should be expected or required to do. Performing a ceremony would be too much to require I think.

          • For fuck's sake... performing the ceremony is literally her job.

            The tiniest bit of searching would have told you this before you started acting like a legal authority.

            https://www.health.ny.gov/publications/4210/index

            • There is no particular form or ceremony required except that the parties must state in the presence of an authorized public official or authorized member of the clergy and at least one other witness that each takes the other as his or her spouse.

              So it seems the judge doesn't actually need to do anything more than be a witness. Then she could have done simply that, without saying anything. I wonder if she even new that.

              But that link says nothing about the required duties of judges. They are nearly in the list of approved people, able to perform marriages. Also strange it comes from the department of health.

              • I wonder if she even new that.

                SHE'S A FUCKING JUDGE.

                • That doesn't mean she knows everything about the law. Any judge would be able to admit that. That's why they have specialities like family court, or criminal court, copyrights, etc.

                  • Dude, you think you know more about the law than she does because you were a wedding photographer in New York before gay marriage was legal.

                    I don't even know what you think qualifies someone to be a judge but I'm glad it isn't that.

          • The ceremony aspect of marriage is not just a ceremony, it’s a requirement. Asking the basic questions is part of the court procedure, it’s what makes an officiant different than a notary.

            She refused to sign the paper, essentially.

            • It's only a requirement as a vestigial remainder from religion, since all they can do are ceremonies. Legally it realy is nothing more than a contract, and could be treated as such.

              • Ok, cool. Law should be updated. Noted.

                In the meantime, here in reality, I know this because I got married at city hall as a formality and my wife and I tried to just have it signed, since our real ceremony was months later. We were refused, because according to the clerk, we needed to follow a full procedure.

                Stop arguing in bad faith, you’re just plain wrong here. Until laws and procedures actually change, the fact is that those are the minimum requirements and she refused to do them.

                • It might be in ignorance. But it's certainly not in bad faith. I do actually believe everything I've said. Though some of that has turned out to be wrong.

                  • So you're updating your beliefs now that you know facts, right?

                    ... right?

                    • The I believe in this case she had no good excuse not to act as a witness and sign the paperwork, since it seems that's all thats required, and she has no responsibility to perform any actual ceremony.

                      I still believe no judge or person should be required to perform or create anything they don't want to.

                      • Shouldn't public servants have to serve the public? All of the public?

                        If you don't feel like you can serve the public, do not seek a public service position.

                        Others have pointed this out to you already, though. 🤷‍♂️

                      • Look, we’re talking past each other.

                        I don’t believe that any judge or person in general should be forced to perform a ceremony of a different religion or belief system. I agree with you on that point, because full ceremonies are indeed performances with a lot of layered, cultural meanings.

                        The issue here is you are then taking that and asserting that any proceeding that is more involved than signing a piece of paper is, in fact, a ceremony. This is where we differ, and I’ll tell you why: by that definition, signing the paper is ceremonial.

                        Yes, it does record a real world event. But that is a ceremony that we have culturally come to accept after a long history of doing it. We could have come up with many other types of ceremonies to confirm a contract - it could have been a wax seal, or using a broke stick like stocks originally were. Anything can fit the definition of ceremony if you squint hard enough.

                        So, what’s a reasonable place for us to draw the line? I would argue that the current status quo is not particularly religious or meaningful outside of the contract.

                        The officiant confirms that both parties understand what is happening, that this is a contract that will legally bind them together. It’s very serious. Be very sure.

                        Then, they announce that the couple is officially wed, and they sign the document.

                        Last, they usually say “you may kiss” or something to that effect.

                        The most objectionable thing here is the final statement, but even that is hardly objectionable. It is a statement of fact and does not imply any level of endorsement beyond confirming that the deed is done.

                        This is a very, very small formality. There are courtroom procedures that are more lengthy and involved than this regularly. But you are pushing to say this counts as a ceremony, because if it does, then the judge doesn’t have to do this and she’s in the right.

                        I just don’t buy it. The only part of that which can be called remotely ceremonial is the statement about kissing, and honestly if the judge refused to say that in the end I would not care. But every other part is a reasonable procedure to make sure both parties understand the stakes, are not being coerced, etc.

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