This is more of a public note to self, but if anyone else had screwed up fonts, default cursors, and missing minimise/maximise buttons in flatpaks on KDE Wayland, put this in your /usr/share/xdg-desktop-portal/kde-portals.conf:
Apparently this will be fixed in 5.27.9 releasing on the 24th anyway, but I've tried so many different 'solutions' and this had been annoying me for weeks.
Additionally, some (mostly electron) apps seem to need XCURSOR_PATH=/run/host/user-share/icons:/run/host/share/icons set as an environment variable for proper cursor theming.